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Registered: 06-14-2004
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Thu, 06-17-2004 - 8:59am
While having NC, but yet working together, should you make small talk with OM, ignore or give attention to comments he makes, or what? This is my first week of NC and I have already ran into him at least 4 times. Most of the time we have been in the presence of other people. He will have a conversation with me or group. The thing is, he hurt me, I'm sure he knows that, but I don't want to show that I am hurting. Remember he is the one that showed up with XW, without giving me any advanced knowlege. Thanks GL
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Registered: 05-28-2004
In reply to: gaillinette
Thu, 06-17-2004 - 9:19am
Hard to say. I've been in that situation for a while. You want to keep up appearances, of course, and not have anybody suspect anything. I would say avoid him when you can and reply to his small talk only if he speaks to you in front of other people. If you're alone with him that's another matter - NC all the way... Hang in there, be tough and don't ever show how you're feeling. Eventually you should try to get transferred or get another job or else your healing will be compromised. In my case, even if I've been at another job for a month now, I still think of XMM sometimes and it hurts.
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In reply to: gaillinette
Thu, 06-17-2004 - 10:38am
Thank you, that makes the most sense I thought also. I just want him to know that he is not going to slide back in like he has done in the past. I'm finished. I want a peaceful life. GL
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Registered: 05-28-2004
In reply to: gaillinette
Thu, 06-17-2004 - 1:33pm
A peaceful life! Well said. That's all I want too now... no drama, no crying, no depression over a man who wanted some cheap thrills and who suddenly changed his mind for whatever reason. But like I said, NC is the best way to heal.