WOW!

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Registered: 10-12-2009
WOW!
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Wed, 12-09-2009 - 4:52pm
I just wanted to say I cannot believe how I keep reading here over and over, new people come on here daily, sometimes 2 or 3 new ones, hurting so badly. It seems like an epidemic lately. If only we knew or read this board before so we could run away! But would we have? I think we were all so naive, believing in the fairy tales we were told as kids...wanting to live this fantasy, thinking we would be different, that it would turn out different for us. I just wanted to say I feel for all of you newbies that are hurting, I am too. I am still trying to crawl out of this, he is keeping me at this "friends" thing right now. Delaying the inevitable. I still long for him, so the friend thing is kind of a joke. We suffer so much because of these married men, it's unbelievable the hell we put ourselves through. For what? I don't know, I just can't believe what I am seeing here today, I feel for all of you, and I am right there with ya. Thank goodness for the vets here!! They are proof we can get through.......Good Luck!
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Registered: 08-06-2007
In reply to: livefortoday2009
Wed, 12-09-2009 - 6:29pm

live, you took the words right out of my mouth. Just this morning I was reading and thinking, oh my goodness, there are so many new posters and there is so much pain. It seems to be an epidemic lately!

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Registered: 08-15-2009
In reply to: livefortoday2009
Wed, 12-09-2009 - 9:13pm

Hi Band & Live,


Yes, I agree....def. a lot of newbies.

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Registered: 03-03-2005
In reply to: livefortoday2009
Wed, 12-09-2009 - 10:12pm

I too realize how many newbies there are. I am one, 6 days no contact, if you do not count his wife calling me and telling him I called her. He emailed me and ignored it. He yelled and said a bunch of really mean things. Very hurtful. Called me crazy. Funny part is, she called me. But she has him super mad at me to keep him away. Which is fine by me, just fine. It does hurt tho. I miss the guy I thought I knew. The one that was not married to begin with. Oh well. It does hurt.

Something that really .helped me today. I looked at old pics of before him, pics of me and my kids. Pics of fam and friends. Pics of good times, before he ever entered my life. I looked so much more confident. I felts so much better about myself. I was a better mom. I was a better worker. I took care of myself. I thought to make myself look good just for me, not for him. It was a good thing. I saw the old me. And I miss her. It helped me. It may or may not help you. Go thru old photos. Go as far back as you have to. Old albums, an old camera, anything to help take you there. It really helped. I am determined to get her back. I am determined to look in the mirror and see her again. Hope it helps someone. Let me know. Thanks.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-06-2007
In reply to: livefortoday2009
Thu, 12-10-2009 - 12:37am

Good idea.


Refocus and redirect your thoughts and energies, nothing bad can come from that. For me it was about regaining my dignity, self respect and mostly my spirit.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2009
In reply to: livefortoday2009
Thu, 12-10-2009 - 6:17am

LFT,


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Honey, I've been on this board for almost 5 years and there are patterns that reoccur every year. Usually around the holidays there is an influx of newbies

   ~Iddy~