xAP's Bday and thoughts

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xAP's Bday and thoughts
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Sun, 11-01-2009 - 8:13pm

xAP's birthday is later this week. In a month, there is also "Bandk's Day" (not my bday, just a special day for him) Anyway, why after all this time do I still think of him and a wee bit of me still wants to say Happy Birthday to him.

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Sun, 11-01-2009 - 9:59pm

Bandk -


I'm coming to terms with the fact that we shared such a deep, dark secret with these xAP's, that they will probably never be washed from our memory, or merely a passing thought every now and then.

NC since October 2, 2009.

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Mon, 11-02-2009 - 7:31am

Bandk,

Gal gave a great response and took most of my thoughts right out of my mind. ;-) It *IS* a trigger and because you "always made such a big deal out of them", you are letting your mind to take a "once upon a time" trip down memory lane.

Remember how we always talk about envisioning a big red STOP sign when our thoughts drift into dangerous territory. It's just another day, Bandk, and it will come and go like all of the rest. Just keep busy and it will pass by quickly enough.

((Hugs))


Iddy



~We cannot change anything unless we accept it.- Carl Jung~

Iddy

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Mon, 11-02-2009 - 9:39am

Good morning Bandk,


I have been away with the family and I

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Registered: 10-03-2008
Mon, 11-02-2009 - 10:14am

I always become a little nostalgic on xAP's birthday also

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Mon, 11-02-2009 - 10:36am

Thanks to all of you - I know I can always depend on you guys for the right words to help ease some of the frustrations that come along with affair garbage. There have been several triggers lately. Since xAP and I are 1000 miles apart, I don't see him at all. If I wanted to see him, I could check his news broadcasts online, but I do not dare do that. It's a fake him anyway. I've seen him on the sidelines of football games on TV lately. So I'm guessing I've had a few heavier doses of triggers than normal for me.With his birthday and the other day coming up,

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Tue, 11-03-2009 - 3:27pm
Hi BandK,

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Tue, 11-03-2009 - 3:31pm

<<"I'm tired of being bored,
I'm through with the headaches
Hiding my hands that tremble like earthquakes
Under the table, under the daytime sky
Good f*#^!&g Bye.".>>


Love It!!!


E1


Whether you think you can or you think you cant you are probably right.


A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.


Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Tue, 11-03-2009 - 5:28pm

Thanks EM !


I'm doing ok. No actually I am doing better than ok and I'm not obsessing over his stupid birthday! But the mannerly southern girl in me wishes she could just say Happy Birthday to him and that be all it means. But I know because I played the affair game, I now have to play by a different set of rules. And those rules can

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Registered: 10-04-2009
Tue, 11-03-2009 - 11:01pm

Thanks!

NC since October 2, 2009.

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