xMM uglified himself

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Registered: 09-03-2003
xMM uglified himself
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Thu, 04-08-2004 - 10:31am
When I very first met xMM, he was fat, had no facial hair, and I didn't find him even remotely attractive. Then last spring, we had a meeting and for the first time he just knocked me over. He had a tan, was relatively thin and muscular from having worked out for 2 years, and had a goatee. I have to tell you (especially now), the goatee did something pretty dramatic for him. It made his jaw look more chiseled and his face look thinner.

So flash forward to this morning. He has shaved all of it. Completely bare. And, does this sound odd? It makes him look FAT. Is that possible? I think I'm probably just associating him with all those pictures now, but it's like POOF, he's back to the way he was before we started flirting. We were talking about it (he says he's growing it back out right now; that it was a shaving mistake) and I'm staring at him and I swear to you, he's FAT. He has been saying for a while he's the same weight he's been since losing but he just doesn't look it. He looks like a fat redneck... I told him he looks younger, but I didn't say it looked good. Luckily he didn't ask. I don't know what to say if he does. It's really YUCKY but I don't want him to grow back the goatee. I want to continue to be repulsed by him. So maybe I should tell him it looks bad if he asks. IF I happen to see him again, which is looking unlikely since I'm getting stronger with every moment he doesn't tell me I'm beautiful or look at me like I'm a goddess...

Anyway, I'm going to go with this while it lasts. At one time I was not only NOT attracted to him, but I found him kinda yucky. If I can recapture that feeling, even for a little while, I'm going to let it strengthen me. But is it possible that one day you just wake up and realize you've been really, really stupid???

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Registered: 03-16-2004
Thu, 04-08-2004 - 11:51am
Heehee, your message made me smile! :)

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Thu, 04-08-2004 - 8:07pm
HI Lilah

Interesting question about the beard, the answer is yes men can change the shape of there face with a beard the same way some women do by changing there hair style, a beard does tend to make them look older and sometimes for attractive and dignified then they really are.

Maybe your seeing XMM with more honest eys now then you were in the past, I recall you makeing meantion of the fact that he had a little more gut then you liked but he would keep distracting you from that fact with his MAGIC looks.

If you have to talk to him let it drop that all the girls in the office think he looks younger and sexier with out the beard, his big EGO should do the rest of the job for you.

How are thing with you and the hubby if you don't mind me asking.

Free

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Registered: 09-18-2003
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 1:09am
You gave me a good laugh;) Yes, continue to focus on ALL of the UGLIES!

Your words...."is it possible that one day you just wake up and realize you've been really, really stupid???" Damn I sure hope so and I hope it comes sooner than later.

If I could just focus on the fact that 1) He's more in love with himself than anyone else 2) hH's a womanizer 3) He doesn't deserve me 4) it would never work between us even if he did leave his wife! and 6) HE'S MARRIED!!!! HELLO - What the HELL is wrong with me??!!Why is it so easy to ignore the fact that he has a wife and child??!! AND I'm assisting in ruining his life, his families, and my own!!?? This entire thing has made me into someone I don't like anymore...YUCK!

lost...




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Registered: 04-02-2003
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 8:40am
Lilah, I am going to delurk to tell you that this post made me laugh, and i really needed a laugh today.

Nothing ends passion and romance than thinking a man is "yucky"....LOL...so if this is what you need to get him out of your thoughts and your life then go with it girlfriend.

Yanno, its funny, when I first saw a pic of XOM i said YUCK, and when i first met him I did not think he was good looking. Not ugly, but not good looking. Then he left the service and grew his hair in a little and grew in the goatee. Something about the goatee thing, huh? It is a "chick magnet". Bottom line is I fell in love with his heart, but little did I know that he had a plethora of problems that I later on found out about. But that is a different post, Lilah hang in there.

Jazzdiva