YAMACRAW..... Just curious.............
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YAMACRAW..... Just curious.............
| Mon, 11-24-2003 - 3:03pm |
YAMACRAW..... I was just scanning the old posts and came across yours from 11/7.
Has your anniversary trip taken place yet? If so, how did it go? How did you do?

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Jon
I am going to try and not compare H with OM, and value all the good that is in my H. Perhaps some spark will take us back to the feelings that we had when we were first married.
I hope you both can be spontaneous on your trip and that you can forget for just a little bit what you left behind at home. Good luck!
Wow- not only do we have the exact same issue, but I am starting our "rekindle" vacation next week! I don't compare H or xOM though, b/c xOM couldn'ty comapre to H in other ways, so its apples and oranges. Try not to have expectations. Try to relax about it. Thats what I am doing. Lets fill eachother in after next week. Good luck.
But seriously, it is sad when we found sexual compatibility with someone else and we don't desire our spouses anymore or as much. Maybe there is no solution for that, its jut something that we have to live with.
Jazzdiva
I am not sure I can spend the next 30 years just living with it. Once you've had a bite of the chocolate truffle, don't you always want more?
Jon
When she does or when you think she's even TRYING to....R.E.L.A.X and just go with it. The ONLY thought on your mind at that moment should be what you two are doing.
The day of the trip, heck, this entire week....your thoughts should be about what is at stake and how desperately you want your marriage to work! The second you allow your mind to begin wondering and comparing W to OW...you've LOST what you're desperately trying to find with your wife!
If you allow yourself to go with the moment, you just may learn that your wife can teach you some new moves. And if not, then cut your loses sooner rather than later.
BTW, YOU adding large doses of romance and creativity won't hurt.
Yamacraw, I agree with caring4me...relax and focus on a good time with your wife...and don't forget to get a box of truffles and some pretty flowers......
jmo,
cl-nre
JMO
My comment of once tasting the chocolate truffle, referred to feeling desire and connectivity with another person and once having that, not being able to settle for less for the rest of your life. The options are to find it again in M or divorce and find feelings with another available person. I was not referencing returning to or starting an A at all!
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