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Yet another hurdle to jump...
| Wed, 03-02-2011 - 7:11pm |
But H and I are remaining strong through it, difficult as it will be.
| Wed, 03-02-2011 - 7:11pm |
But H and I are remaining strong through it, difficult as it will be.
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HI, So sorry to hear that his happened.
Hearts, I am just so shocked and appalled that your xAP is stooping to these twisted and hurtful antics. And if this was indeed a directive from his pastor, then I am even more outraged. How totally irresponsible. So sorry that you and H are having to deal with this; it's really unfair, and exAP should NOT be putting you through this. I guess my advice would be to ride it out and ignore it as best you can; he's looking for a reaction, desperate for one, and responding to this will only fuel the fire. In my experience, most of the time when people act out in this way, they eventually give up if you simply don't dignify their behavior with a response. Keep your head high! Don't succomb to his fishing and shame-baiting.
Hi H6 and welcome back,
My H was an elder of our church when I had my A. After D-day my husband stepped down as an elder as he needed to focus his energy on his own household before he could continue in leadership. He did so based on the following scripture: 1 Timothy 3:4,5,& 11.
I’m not sure how your church is set up. Most churches have a mother church and bi-laws in place which state what obligations a pastor has to disclose certain information. Most pastors also have a person they can go to for spiritual leadership. Has your H checked into what your church’s requirements are with regards to your actions? Are you currently in leadership at your church? Do you have an elder board and are they aware of your actions? Has your H contacted his personal mentor to discuss how to proceed in the church given the current situation?
I do not agree with the course xAP has chosen to handled things. I know that my pastor supported NC. I cannot think of any scripture which requires a person to write a letter to another to ask for forgiveness. Forgiveness comes from repentance and is between God and the sinner. I cannot imagine xAP’s church leader giving him the idea that his own personal forgiveness rests on the shoulders of another. However, if your H does contact xAp's pastor it could work agaist him. He may now confirm that he is aware of the infidelity and the pastor would be a witness to that confirmation. It might place
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
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