You are not going to believe this!

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Registered: 11-11-2004
You are not going to believe this!
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Thu, 06-30-2005 - 1:52pm
Ok, so most of you know my complicated, long story....I am at lunch and my h (who is at home on vacation this week) calls me....He is livid, yelling, screaming, not making sense. I finally get him to calm down and tell me what the heck is going on.....Someone left a pair of panties in our mailbox and they look exactly like a pair of mine. Of course he is livid, asking me who he is and what I am doing now, saying it's over, he doesn't care if we are going to counseling because it is over for good now, he can't go through this again....I keep telling him their not mine, I tell him to go and check my pantie drawer (BTW that particular pair I have not worn in ages) and my pair are in there....so now he is assuming someone bought a pair that has seen me wear mine.....he just keeps hanging up on me and understandbly so....I am so upset I am shaking.....Just when I had decided to work on things this happens.....BTW, no one knows where I live, mm has never been to my house or even had my address.....Help!!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 06-30-2005 - 1:58pm
That is very bizarre. Is it possible it is MM's wife? It's easy to find out someone's address from the internet. Most underwear looks similar. I am sorry you are going thru this. Whoever did it is very disturbed.
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Registered: 11-11-2004
Thu, 06-30-2005 - 2:02pm
Supposedly she doesn't know about me...and it is strange that he had to leave work in such a rush yesterday and I haven't heard from him today. I almost think it was him. I can't get in touch with him right now and it is driving me nuts. The pair were those boy shorts that were lacey and a strange color blue. It's not like I had them specially made but what are the odds that someone would pick out those pair to put in my mailbox. Of course, I do have probably 30 pairs of panties so the odds are slimmer than some, but anyway back to the point. I can't believe this. I know in some way I deserve this but come on....couldn't this have happened when my h and I weren't going to work on things?
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Registered: 11-11-2004
Thu, 06-30-2005 - 2:09pm
My h said he was going to call the police and file a report and I said that was fine, I want to know who did this....Now he is not answering the home phone or his cell phone...I am kind of worried he is going to take the kids and run or something, I don't know...I don't know what to think about anything right now.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 06-30-2005 - 3:17pm
You dont think its possible your H did it, do you? To try and trip you up to see if the A was still ongoing? I know its so out there. Its very bizarre.
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Registered: 11-11-2004
Thu, 06-30-2005 - 3:22pm
Some of the gals on the MAS board said the same thing. I don't think so. We are trying to get through this hard part to rebuild. My H is more of a direct kind of guy, he will just come out and ask if he has questions. To me, I could believe mm doing it before I could my h. I mean, mm doesn't want to meet with me because he knows I am trying to end things and he knows I want to end things in person. His w is all hacked off at him about the letter, even if he told her about us and told her it was me, she doesn't know what kind of panties I wear!
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Registered: 06-13-2005
Thu, 06-30-2005 - 3:39pm

I don't know what to tell you but is there any possibility your H will show up at your workplace? Can you leave work early today?

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Registered: 11-11-2004
Thu, 06-30-2005 - 3:44pm
No, he is pretty respectful about my workplace. I could get off early but to be honest, I think the longer he has to calm down the better....
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 06-30-2005 - 3:53pm
Who said they look exactly like yours? Your H said it right? If you have alot of underwear, like most women do and you haven't worn them in a while, I have a hard time believing your H knows all the different types and colors of underwear you have. Most men are so clueless. They may know the word thong but never remember details. I don't know. Its very odd.
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Registered: 11-11-2004
Thu, 06-30-2005 - 3:58pm
Yes, my h would know about these pair because of them being the boy type and he really liked them. I only have about 3 pair like that and then most of them are thongs...My h is about ready to track down mm and kick his butt...I don't think he is making this up. And, my h is very into noticing if I have new underwear or lingerie. He is very attentive that way.
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Registered: 11-11-2004
Fri, 07-01-2005 - 12:34pm
Well, in case there were any inquiring minds out there that wanted to know.....I went home last night and my H wasn't making it up. There were panties in our mailbox. They weren't even my size though so it had to be someone that didn't know what size I wore. The gross thing is that they weren't new, they were used....Can I hear an "OOOOOOOH!" So it wasn't someone that bought panties like mine to prove a point or cause trouble. The bizarre thing is that I have not heard from mm since Wednesday when he had to cancel meeting me because he had to leave work and go because something happened.....He said he would call first thing yesterday morning and I didn't hear from him. He was at work yesterday. I left him a vmail yesterday saying we needed to talk right after I got off the phone with my H. He didn't call back and hasn't called today....I am really beginning to get some weird feelings about all this!

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