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| Sun, 02-27-2011 - 9:17am |
Reading the board this morning was exhilarating. I was so impressed by some of the stuff I read from last night, I've decided to put it in a thread of it's own. I would like to keep this thread current with your help and input. If you read something in a thread that provides an "Aha" moment for you, please copy and paste it as a reply. Good job, fellow Enders!

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Re-reading these is really helping the healing process within me...I know I have to be patient with myself and will not declare myself "totally healed" anytime soon.
Here's one I love:
TU
"I know it seems this way, but remember how we behaved during the affair, the messages we sent about what was acceptable. Now that we are outta the fog we can see how screwed up it ALL is. Can't focus on being angry at "how dare they" not respect our boundaries, our partners etc .... isn't that what we were doing ALL along. NOT respecting our own families, their families etc ... introspection."
"You/We/They were not irreplaceable soul mates who came into our lives for a reason. They were the symptom of deeper issues going on in our lives, and instead of taking the more difficult & dignified route of actually choosing to face our realities, we held-up in some dark scary cave with another person just as cowardly and damaged as ourselves."
So true...the A is a symptom of a deeper issue in me and my marriage...It has been painful but so helpful to spend time with my T figuring these things out. The journey is long but fruitful. Thanks TU fo your incredible insight.
Healing in 2010
We look to those who have been strong enough to make it through without faltering...they give us HOPE, we look to those who are struggling, but have enough sense to reach out....they give us STRENGTH, we look at all of those taking the time to write their most personal stories and share their most private thoughts...they
Iggy~
TU~
Dee~
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