You guys "Rock!"

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You guys "Rock!"
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Sun, 02-27-2011 - 9:17am

Reading the board this morning was exhilarating. I was so impressed by some of the stuff I read from last night, I've decided to put it in a thread of it's own. I would like to keep this thread current with your help and input. If you read something in a thread that provides an "Aha" moment for you, please copy and paste it as a reply. Good job, fellow Enders!

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Wed, 03-16-2011 - 9:50am

From Luvin's Indifference post:

I can shine and do not need anyone else to "make" me shine. I can stand alone and radiate.

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Wed, 03-16-2011 - 5:12pm

Wow, this thread is so timely!

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Thu, 03-17-2011 - 8:46am

Waking up~

There is no such thing as a clean ending. No such thing as closure with an A. The only thing certain is that the only way to heal and save yourself is to go NC and maintain NC. That's one valuable lesson I've learned through and through. He can't hurt me if I don't let him.

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Fri, 03-18-2011 - 6:55am
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Fri, 03-18-2011 - 8:02am
U can dO this today! U just gotta believe in yourself.
Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Fri, 03-18-2011 - 12:28pm
portadowngirl,

You are very new into your A - on the one hand, breaking away is more difficult because you are in the hot, heavy, all-consuming stage. But, on the other hand, it will be so much better for you to get out NOW instead of 3 YEARS from. These As can go on and on and on....

Read the DDay stories in the Healing Library. Your H will be devastated, but he will probably survive. But, your CHILDREN??? I know my son would have hated me forever for breaking up the family.

You cannot live a parallel life - that is EXACTLY what I used to say to myself. I thought I could still be a loving W and mother. Looking back, even in a relatively short period of 8 MONTHS, I realize that I had robbed and cheated my family.

I encourage you to see reason and not risk the futures of your children. We make sacrifices for our children all the time. But, THIS "sacrifice" - ending the A - will also save YOU. .
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Sun, 03-20-2011 - 7:54pm

By the lovely Dee,

"self-awareness is _such_ a huge, huge gift"

V888

xxxxx

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Mon, 03-21-2011 - 8:48pm

By ratherbeme

in reply to: blueclouds1627

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Fri, 03-25-2011 - 10:12am

Katniss wrote:

we've all missed the "excitement" (although our racing hearts were really just our bodies' alarm systems warning us of danger),

Wow. This is a great to put it. How I remember those heart palpitations. Ugh!


Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Fri, 03-25-2011 - 12:16pm

tynkerbell1977 wrote:

Don't make someone a priority that is/was making you an option.

Absolutely true and brilliant! What a waste of time/energy/head space!!!!