Your Biggest Regret?

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Your Biggest Regret?
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Wed, 03-03-2010 - 10:13am

Dear Enders,

Anyone can reply to this thread, but for those of you further out of your affair, what have you realized is your biggest regret for going down this road?

Mine was, or should I say still is, the fact that I broke a promise to myself that I would NEVER get involved with a MM. I had plenty of opportunities over the years but always avoided them like the Bubonic Plague. I thought of it as despicable behavior, and would harshly judge any friend that had chosen this path. I actually lost 2 very close friends many years ago by cutting them off over what they were doing. Ugh! How I wish I could turn back the clock sometimes. Perhaps that's another regret I have? ;-)

Who else would like to chime in? I think it's important that we recognize where our forgiveness is needed the most.

((Hugs))

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 02-09-2010
Thu, 03-04-2010 - 12:10pm
I regret that instead of facing my issues head on I chose to escape and in the process lose sight of the person that truly loves and shows me everyday.
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Registered: 11-04-2009
Thu, 03-04-2010 - 2:16pm

Wow Bbear, that hit home for me.


I think about all that my H has put up with over the last 16mths. He has never said a bad word to me, only tried to make sense of what can be done to save the marriage. He has his own demons to address and I worry that we will spin our wheels but I look at how much he has shown his love for me and it makes me wonder why I went down this terrible road.


He may be guilty of inaction, passivly watching our marriage lose momentum over the years but in no way has he deserved what I have done. His inactions did not warrant my insensitive, selfish actions.


This has been the hardest thing that I have ever had to navigate through.


GMLB

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Registered: 10-09-2008
Thu, 03-04-2010 - 6:29pm

I'm chiming in at the end here.....


Being 2 1/2 months out now and having somehow lived through the hell of the d-day, my biggest regrets involve the hurt I inflicted on my daughter.

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Thu, 03-04-2010 - 6:56pm

((LL))


Just want to give you some hugs, honey.


(((Hugs)))

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 01-24-2010
Fri, 03-05-2010 - 8:51am

My biggest regret - saying yes to something so wrong, and not walking away that first night when it was clear this was only an "extension of our friendship"(his words on day 1) - still makes me sick to think of

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Registered: 01-16-2010
Fri, 03-05-2010 - 9:34pm

Iddy and BandK,

Thank you for your kind replies. This week has just been awful, and I appreciate your support.

Misty

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