Your Love Punch

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Your Love Punch
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Fri, 07-23-2010 - 9:12am

A couple months ago, I think it was Dee, turned me onto www.yourlovepunch.com. At the time, the board encouraged me to submit a letter there. I did and then forgot about it. Today I was on the site and realized that my letter was published :) I am kind of tickled by it. I wrote it at about 2 months out (4 months ago), which seems like ages and ages ago. You can check it out here:


http://yourlovepunch.com/2010/06/01/dear-jeff/


Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
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Fri, 07-23-2010 - 9:21am
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Fri, 07-23-2010 - 9:26am

Jane,
It's a great letter and I bet it's going to change somebody's life for the better. I'm glad you wrote it and not the least bit surprised it got published!

Dee

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Registered: 04-15-2010
Fri, 07-23-2010 - 9:55am

Jane,


Deep sigh, tears streaming down my face. I remember reading that letter on your blog and here, months later, it still deeply saddens me to feel the complexity of feelings that your letter speaks to. I miss him. Not the idea of 'us'. not the fantasy, but him. I am ashamed to admit it - but I do. I won't list off all the reasons why, nor the specificity of the missing - the point is, I do and I wish that I didn't.


I have found myself almost depressed lately ... wondering when my life will consist of more than carrying the heavy weight of the consequences of my actions and the overwhelming feeling that I won't be able to repair my marriage.

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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Fri, 07-23-2010 - 10:29am
jane, you really are a good writer. I am not surprised your article was published. you should think about writing a book.
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Fri, 07-23-2010 - 11:43pm

Congratulations!!! How could they not publish such an amazing writer who articulates her emotions so well!


Thanks for sharing the wonderful news with us and if you are starting a waiting list for your first book, please add my name.


Much love and big hugs,


E1


Whether you think you can or you think you can’t you are probably right.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Sat, 07-24-2010 - 12:18am

Jane,


Your blog, posts, and replies to my posts have been my saving grace here the last few months. Your hard work and time spent on this is appreciated. We have such similar stories, except that I am a few months behind you. Boy, does it help to know it gets better. It really, really helps. Please keep it up.

~~Serenity~~


Better than a thousand hollow words is one word that brings peace. ---Buddha

~~Serenity~~


Better than a thousand hollow words is one word that brings peace. ---Buddha

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Sat, 07-24-2010 - 10:31am

Jane,

I'm so sorry to be late in responding to your post. I tried to visit www.yourlovepunch.com yesterday at work but the corporation I work for blocks that site so I had to wait until today and read from home.

What a beautiful letter. It's filled with so many lessons and many of the emotions that I have experienced through my post-A period. You have such an amazing way of putting thoughts into words. I also learn so much from your blog. You put such a refreshing perspective on everything.

I just wanted to thank you for being here for me and for EAS.

love and hugs
CSN

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Sat, 07-24-2010 - 10:36am

Now tears are streaming down my face. I've had a rough 48 hours... thankfully, the sun is shining here today and life will go on. Thank you all for your heartfelt words. Like many of you, EAS saved my life. It gave me the insight I needed to move past the raw pain of ending an A. If not for all of you, I would not be able to articulate what's in my head... you help me decipher it. I am so grateful for all of you.

Hugs,

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/