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With your support I think I can do this
| Wed, 01-26-2011 - 8:08pm |
I'm so thankful I found you all here.
| Wed, 01-26-2011 - 8:08pm |
I'm so thankful I found you all here.
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((Katniss))
TU is spot on. You are going to read this a lot around here. Your self worth is NOT predicated on anything XAP thinks, feels, does, or doesn't do. This journey is going to be all about you now. And 4 days of NC is a great start. I was typing to you to block him ASAP when I had to go turn off the stove. When I came back, you had already taken the advice of others and did this already. YAY, you! Remember, NC is not a punishment but a gift we give to ourselves so we can heal from the massive emotional destruction of our A.
Good mantra! " IT DOESN'T MATTER! " .....and one day you'll see just how true this is.
Hi Katniss,
katniss,
Garfy, Thank you so much. What a wonderful fable. I will print it and pin it on the wall above my desk. I want you to know how much it meant to me last week to have your support, and for me to know that your marriage has not only survived but been strengthened.
Over the weekend, I immersed myself in small acts of love for the people around me. And somehow,
Thank you Cait. I am
Yes, he has respected my wishes. And one day I will hopefully have the perspective to be grateful for that.
I have also realised that relying on my flawed willpower alone to maintain NC is unrealistic. So I
Welcome Katniss,
You CAN do this!!
K my XAP was wonderful, kind and charming too, well he was, up until the very last point of contact where he refused to accept that I would not get back with him, but i don't hold that against him, I know emotions can bring that bad side out of us.
We thought we were in love with each other, in essence what we were, was in love with THE FEELINGS that affairs produce. I found the below post on the After the Affair forum on iVillage, for the life of me i do not recall who posted this and i apologise in advance for not giving credit to that poster, I got something out of it hope you do too.
Sweetie, the ONLY thing he has for you are feelings.
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