Zenseday :)

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Zenseday :)
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Wed, 01-26-2011 - 7:47am

"Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." Victor Frankl

I have been on a quest for inner peace and happiness my entire life - not just during the past 7 months in getting past my A. I have made the biggest strides in this quest during the past 7 months because I have been forced to do a lot of work. Imagine that! Until we deal with the ways we get knotted up inside, our lives will be complicated, and the beauty of inner peace will elude us. One of the things I used to do, when a hundred different feelings were swirling around my head, was to take an index card and write "acceptable thoughts" on one side and "unacceptable thoughts" on the other. I forced myself to only think of the positive things I had written on the acceptable side.

When you are triggered by something, instead of playing it out the way you have in the past, stop and breathe. Notice your thought patterns. Ask yourself questions - the most important ones being "can I change this?" "what can I do differently?"

We are responsible for our own lives ONLY. We don't have control over what xap does, thinks, says, feels. We get caught in the "if only" trap (I know I did). Thinking this way will never solve our problems because we are making our happiness dependent on something we can't control.

So for Zenseday, join me on my path to find peace. Let go of the things you can't control. Breathe :)

Bodhi

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Registered: 12-01-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 01-26-2011 - 8:14am

AWESOME! Thanks

Love, Sunshine Dedicated to living my new life with integrity, truth and positive thoughts! I am worthy of true love and definitely worth the wait!
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Registered: 07-21-2009
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 01-26-2011 - 8:49am

Thanks for this Bodhi-

I have been struggling this morning with thoughts about my old job (which I left when the A ended).

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Registered: 08-25-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 01-26-2011 - 8:59am
Bodhi,
It's a foreign concept until forced to actually evaluate our responses - to pre-plan what we COULD do differently and like you, I have only realized the power that comes from that by DOING that these last few months. Not only can I change this, or can I do this differently - but going beyond and recognizing that there are some things out of our power to control and learning to accept it for what it is.

When my xAP would fight with me over nonissue things - I had to learn to adopt the right to "not be right" - and if you know me - it's a lot. I hate fighting and i hate contention that comes from people wanting to be RIGHT all the time, and so when they said stuff that I KNEW was wrong - I simply replied "you're probably right about that". Fight averted, they are validated and it just doesn't matter! They do over time realize that they were not right - it's like karma - it comes full circle.

Letting go of that power struggle - has been key in finding peace.

Thank you for this today!
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Registered: 04-20-2009
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 01-26-2011 - 9:08am

I was really cranky last night and didn't want to do the bedtime story routine with my little girls, since they'd been little pissers for the entire evening.

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Registered: 09-23-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 01-26-2011 - 10:10am

Thank you Bodhi.

My life changed

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In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 01-26-2011 - 10:19am
Hi Bodhi, I sure needed to read your Zenseday post today. Its been a tough few days with feeling off kilter. I need to breathe and let go of the power struggle I am battling within. I am going to try the index cards, I think seeing my thoughts written out will be very beneficial. I have a co-worker that challenges me on a daily basis and I am also going to borrow Lolly's phrase, "you are probably right" I really need to stop getting caught up in who is right:) Dee your bedtime story helped me, I think I need to read stories such as yours each night to end my day on a relaxing note!

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Registered: 08-18-2008
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 01-26-2011 - 12:00pm

Hi Bodhi,

I’ve been been on a similar quest this last week so your quote about response and choice really resonated with me.

A good friend shared a saying a while back: “We are the gatekeepers for the amount of dysfunction we allow into our life.”

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 10-20-2009
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 01-26-2011 - 2:22pm

Been such a long time since I posted here wasn’t sure if I remembered my password…LOL..:smileytongue:

BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3
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Registered: 10-19-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 01-26-2011 - 2:44pm
WOW! Where your ears Signing N_S or where mine?
Bodhi, I will respond to the thread in a minute....but for now I have to just Laugh and Love the powers of the universe.

N_S I just posted a thread for you....and was for sure typing it as you posted this here. You have been on my mind lately...and I had something to say to you. Wow...I am really and truly memorized by the powers of positivity and love right now. That is all I can say.

Stunned...
Foggy
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Registered: 08-18-2008
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 01-26-2011 - 2:55pm

Hey NS,

It's been a while. Good to see you on!

Sending back tons of love to you and yours!

E1

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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