Zenseday

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Wed, 12-01-2010 - 11:43am

I spent so much time during my A worrying about "losing" XAP. I realized after ending it, that I didn't really have to worry about losing him, I had actually lost myself. Everything in my life was about him. His work, his life, his vacations, his choices. I stopped living. I lost friends. My self worth was totally tied to him. I struggled for SO long - accepting his completely unacceptable behavior. Of course, his behavior was unacceptable only to me because of my messed up expectations. I am responsible for determining MY expectations and what is acceptable. How can I expect others to treat me with dignity and respect if I don’t treat myself that way? One of the many quotes I've seen on this board and have weaved into my life is "We teach people how to treat us."

A long time ago, I made a list of 100 things about myself - it's fun and challenging - you should try it. You'll actually be surprised how hard it becomes to come up with the last 20 things or so! My list is completely random. I opened up the file the other day to remind myself of who I am. If it helps you, post some things unique to you. Here are 10 of my 100:

I don't like going to the post office.

I am a control freak.

I can scuba dive.

I've never had ketchup, mustard, mayo or pretty much any other condiment...

I don't like being told what to do.

I love alleys.

I sing in the car.

I've been to Honduras.

I love all types of movies.

I was in a tornado when I was 3.

Have a wonderful Zenseday :smileyhappy: Know who you are and take great pride in that person. Set boundaries, and keep them.

Bodhi

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In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 11:49am

Ha, Bodhi!

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Registered: 11-25-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 12:03pm
Love this idea! Here are my 10:

I played Little League the first year it was opened to girls in :cough: 1975.
I hate anchovies.
I love to sing.
I've been to London and wish I could go back.
I'm really good at my job.
Horror movies about kids scare the bejeebus out of me.
I ride horses.
I am a planner to a fault.
I am totally lovable as I am.
I tend to learn some things the hard way.

Thanks for starting this thread - great way to focus on ourselves!
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Registered: 06-17-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 12:42pm

Dee -

It says that you know yourself very well! Thank you for sharing the Ghandi quote :)

Bodhi

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Registered: 04-01-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 12:43pm

What a fun thread, Bodhi!! I'm so glad you started this. Here are 10 random things about me:

1. I was the tallest person in 6th grade--even taller than my teacher!

2. I love every single green vegetable known to man.

3. I have visted 43 of our country's states.

4. I love airports.

5. I have freckles and I love them.

6. My favorite vacation spot is anywhere with blue water, white sand and swaying palm trees.

7. I laugh loudly..

8. I hate shaving my legs in the winter.

9. I feel compelled to be involved in everything for fear I may miss out on a good party or good gossip!!

10. I am distantly related to Jesse James.

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Registered: 06-17-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 12:48pm

Just -

I haven't had a chance to say Hi to you yet, so Hi! :smileyhappy: I'm glad you are here. Keep the focus on you and your M. Don't respond to any more of XAP's texts - as I said at the end of my post today - set boundaries and keep them :smileyhappy:

Bodhi

PS - I want to go to London someday!

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Registered: 06-17-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 12:52pm

Always -

Jesse James the outlaw or Jesse James the scumbag that screwed around with Sandra Bullock??!!

Bodhi

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Registered: 10-14-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 12:55pm

10 things that are Unique to Me:

I was taken to the ground by secret service when I was 10; Gerald Ford Visited our "Flag City" in Ohio - I guess I got a little too close - sneaking up in the bushes beside the elks.

I am a descendent of Peter Stuyvesant the first dutch governor of New York

My blood type is 0 Negative

I am the product of an affair

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 12:59pm
The outlaw, of course!!
Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Registered: 06-17-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 12:59pm

Michelle -

Good luck if it's baby day! I hope labor isn't too hard for her.

Bodhi

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Registered: 06-17-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 1:13pm

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Whew! I bet you got a kick out of the Brady Bunch episode where Bobby had to write about a hero and chose Jesse James.

Bodhi

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