Zenseday

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Registered: 06-17-2010
Zenseday
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Wed, 12-01-2010 - 11:43am

I spent so much time during my A worrying about "losing" XAP. I realized after ending it, that I didn't really have to worry about losing him, I had actually lost myself. Everything in my life was about him. His work, his life, his vacations, his choices. I stopped living. I lost friends. My self worth was totally tied to him. I struggled for SO long - accepting his completely unacceptable behavior. Of course, his behavior was unacceptable only to me because of my messed up expectations. I am responsible for determining MY expectations and what is acceptable. How can I expect others to treat me with dignity and respect if I don’t treat myself that way? One of the many quotes I've seen on this board and have weaved into my life is "We teach people how to treat us."

A long time ago, I made a list of 100 things about myself - it's fun and challenging - you should try it. You'll actually be surprised how hard it becomes to come up with the last 20 things or so! My list is completely random. I opened up the file the other day to remind myself of who I am. If it helps you, post some things unique to you. Here are 10 of my 100:

I don't like going to the post office.

I am a control freak.

I can scuba dive.

I've never had ketchup, mustard, mayo or pretty much any other condiment...

I don't like being told what to do.

I love alleys.

I sing in the car.

I've been to Honduras.

I love all types of movies.

I was in a tornado when I was 3.

Have a wonderful Zenseday :smileyhappy: Know who you are and take great pride in that person. Set boundaries, and keep them.

Bodhi

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Registered: 10-14-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 1:17pm

thanks Bodhi !!!

Ill keep everybody posted

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Registered: 10-17-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 1:50pm

Bodhi,

Awesome idea and I love reading everyone's answers!

I am a twin

I love to swim and love seeing ocean life,, dolphins, sea lions, you name it.

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In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 2:16pm

Renewal -

It is fun reading everyone's answers. I love the things that make each one of us unique. I never got into General

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Registered: 10-14-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 2:41pm

i REALLY enjoyed this Thread Bodhi!!!

I LOVE reading the special things about everyone here. It brought a smile to my face to learn so many new things about everyone.

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 2:52pm

Oh how fun to read about everyone. Michelle please keep us updated. I add on to Bodhi’s wishes that labor is short and will pain free!

OMG Renewal I LOVE McDiddy Fish Filets. Did you ever do the Filet of Fish Friday when they were only $1?

Ok uniquely me:

I like working outdoors

I love Godiva Chocolate

I actually enjoy working out

I have long toes which hubby has dubbed “finger toes.” I can pick things up off the floor with em. Thank you, thank you…bet you did not know I had such talent!

I was at the epicenter of a major earthquake when I was six.

We use to take long family cross country road trips when I was little. Many belong in a National Lampoon movie. My sister threatens to write a book about them. I threaten to change my name and go underground if she does.

I am in an interracial M

Both my sis and I are adopted (at least that’s what my parents claim)

Ok I got one on you all.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 06-17-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 3:09pm

E1-

My daughter has finger toes! She's an amazing dancer - especially pointe - I'm told her long toes are the key. Have you ever danced? Thanks for sharing - I love that you were a parochial school rebel.

Bodhi

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Registered: 10-19-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 3:26pm

Hey Bodhi,

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In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 3:29pm
HAHHAHAHA I LITERALLY LOL'D at 8!!! Ive had a beard since I was 16 too!! hahahah jk . I pictured the Grinch when he was in gradeschool - with the toilet paper stuck to his face! hahaha.
Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Registered: 11-16-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 3:51pm

Good morning everyone,

Here are mine:

I'm petrified of rodents

I have lots of energy and feel sleeping beyond 6hrs per night is a waste of life

I love traveling and immersing myself into different cultures

I don't like to be told what do either

I painted a piece that was selected/displayed in the Australian Art Gallery when i was 19

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Registered: 05-15-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 4:23pm

What a fun post.