Zenseday

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Zenseday
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Wed, 12-01-2010 - 11:43am

I spent so much time during my A worrying about "losing" XAP. I realized after ending it, that I didn't really have to worry about losing him, I had actually lost myself. Everything in my life was about him. His work, his life, his vacations, his choices. I stopped living. I lost friends. My self worth was totally tied to him. I struggled for SO long - accepting his completely unacceptable behavior. Of course, his behavior was unacceptable only to me because of my messed up expectations. I am responsible for determining MY expectations and what is acceptable. How can I expect others to treat me with dignity and respect if I don’t treat myself that way? One of the many quotes I've seen on this board and have weaved into my life is "We teach people how to treat us."

A long time ago, I made a list of 100 things about myself - it's fun and challenging - you should try it. You'll actually be surprised how hard it becomes to come up with the last 20 things or so! My list is completely random. I opened up the file the other day to remind myself of who I am. If it helps you, post some things unique to you. Here are 10 of my 100:

I don't like going to the post office.

I am a control freak.

I can scuba dive.

I've never had ketchup, mustard, mayo or pretty much any other condiment...

I don't like being told what to do.

I love alleys.

I sing in the car.

I've been to Honduras.

I love all types of movies.

I was in a tornado when I was 3.

Have a wonderful Zenseday :smileyhappy: Know who you are and take great pride in that person. Set boundaries, and keep them.

Bodhi

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In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 5:09pm

Foggy-

I'm glad you participated in the fun sci-fi guy! The thought of you going down the street trying to high five people cracks me up. Thank you for your thoughts too. I have always struggled with my expectations. It's really amazing how entitled we become. I'm still sawing at that cord.

Bodhi

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In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 5:12pm

Vanessa-

How cool that you had your art accepted in a gallery! I got a chuckle with your last two things - you love reality TV, but you don't watch the news - so I guess you don't like ALL reality TV? hee hee

Bodhi

PS - I hope you are still creating art :)

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Registered: 06-17-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 5:14pm

MC -

It's interesting that you share birthdays with your grandmother and granddaughter! My kids were born at the exact same time of day - how spooky is that?

Bodhi

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In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 6:16pm
This was a really good idea, here are my 10:

I love libraries
Seeing homeless people has my heat aching
I enjoy organizing rooms, closets and drawers
I'm uncomfortable in elevators, I wouldn't go in one for two years. I work on the 26th floor!
I watch scary movies in the dark and on my own
I'm not a big drinker but love zambuca that tastes like licorce
Big Brother is my favorite reality show
This is weird but I love working with excel spread sheets....
Speaking of weird I'm very quirky and weird!!
I love cats and have passed that on to my kids, we have added yet another cat to our family:)

Michelle good luck to your daughter on the birth of her baby:)
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In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 6:21pm

Ok, gosh darn it.

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In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 8:26pm

Jen-

I'm with you on most of your contributions - except Excel - I don't know that program at all!! Come up with 90 more things for you now! :)

Bodhi

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Registered: 06-17-2010
In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 8:30pm

Dee -

I'm glad you came back and played! My Zenseday post took a different turn this week - it's fun reading about everyone :) You would be in heaven in my office - as a designer, I have paper samples coming out the wazoooo.

Bodhi

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In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 9:02pm

This is fun.

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In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 9:05pm

Loved reading all these.

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In reply to: bodhi2010
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 10:27pm
Hi Bodhi

I don't watch the news because i feel the stories are always so distorted, (I worked in the news publishing industry for 6 years LOL), so i decided two years ago to stop watching altogether. So i never know what's going on unless its a major event, people always ask me where i have been LOL. I still create when i can, i haven't had time to this past year....you know why. :)