Am i as disgusting as he claims...

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Registered: 05-07-2010
Am i as disgusting as he claims...
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Fri, 05-07-2010 - 7:42pm

I need some feedback. My A with a MM has been going on for over 2 years. It ended with heartbreak last week. I had spent the week with him

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Registered: 05-07-2010
Mon, 05-10-2010 - 1:20pm

Hi Tiffany


Your post had excellent insight and the perspective i guess i was looking for. I'm not trying to beat myself up any more than i already am but i do want to be a better human being. I don't want to continue hurting anyone.


Right now

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Registered: 12-31-2009
Mon, 05-10-2010 - 3:51pm

There is a lot of power in being able to say "no".

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Registered: 01-18-2010
Mon, 05-10-2010 - 4:49pm

I just wanted to welcome you to the board LF2. I think the ladies have you covered very well. Please know that you are in good hands and post, post, post away. We are here.

Luvin

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 03-17-2010
Tue, 05-11-2010 - 12:47am

LF2, welcome!

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Registered: 02-02-2010
Wed, 05-12-2010 - 2:17pm

Hi LF2- Somehow I missed your post. I just wanted to say welcome. You've been given a lot of support already. We are certainly all behind you.


Hugs,


Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
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Registered: 10-14-2009
Wed, 05-12-2010 - 4:04pm

Hell no! where do these married men come from with demands of monogomy? And I am a MM once in an A with a Mw. Both of us were spouses in every sense of the word.

It's so amazingly unfair (to put it mildly) to be in an A when you are married and ask your single AP to see only you. But being in an A is kinda (?!?!?!)unfair to your unknowing spouse too. So a defective brain may be the price of admission to an A. Although if you and your xAP agreed to be honest with each other you not telling him is tough. But being with a single guy is what you should be doing. Your mistake was being with the married guy who expected you to be with only him. But an A is all about lies. An A is probably the origin of the saying - "All is fair in Love and War" Because all is certainly not fair in a marriage. My own guilt keeps me awake at night.

Start new. Start healthy. Don't cheat yourself anymore.

"You Cant Lose What You Never Had" ---

Muddy Waters
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Registered: 08-20-2009

Boy, do I have a story for you!

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Registered: 08-02-2000
Thu, 10-21-2010 - 10:54am
Oh my goodness, the hypocrisy of it all. You know what I think? I think you should dancing a jig right now because perhaps he will now stay out of your life for good. I say "perhaps" because though you seem to want it, and he says he wants it, I've seen these things go right back to where they were many times....both myself and others. Until the final "thing" that nails the coffin shut. I hope this is it for you.....that you truly see what an incredibly self-centered, dishonest, childish hypocrite he really is. He lies every single day to his wife by a continued involvement with another woman, yet you're disgusting? Ugh. He is a pig. You did nothing wrong. You owe him nothing. First of all, you owed him no explanation for your plans for the weekend, and you also didn't "owe" him the truth about what those plans were. For your sake, I really do hope that this is it for you, and that you can put this affair and this man completely, totally 100% behind you and move on to something more healthy for your life.
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Registered: 08-20-2009
Mon, 10-25-2010 - 10:53pm

Silly

I love the name BTW. It just screams FUN. Thanks for responding.

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