distractions from obsessive thinking

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Registered: 02-03-2012
distractions from obsessive thinking
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 1:48pm

Thinking about play..or fun...actually. I once read that if you want to break the habit of obsessing over someone that you need to STOP. Consciously replace the thought of this person with another feel-good thought or activity. To strive to do this at least 10 times a day for a couple days and see if it helps break a spiral of negativity. (and no..I'm not saying don't deal with real feelings..just how to stop obsessive thinking) So I started wondering what feel-good thought or activities people have? I created a very short list for myself: pizza!!! popsicles a day in the pool, river or a water-park losing myself in a good book spending a rainy day in an art gallery walking out of a movie theatre into a bright sunny parking lot the smell of fresh cut grass the smell of clean laundry listening to children laugh sitting on a porch/deck and watching the sun rise with a nice cup of coffee (or hot tea) the beach. Anytime. The beach. dissolving into a pile of giggles and tears with good friends. Okay. How about the rest of you guys. Would love to see what others truly enjoy.

  The difference between who you are and who you imagine yourself to be, is what you do.

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Registered: 11-22-2011
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 2:00pm

Riding my horse. Riding my bike. Weeding my veg. garden. Sitting on a boat dock looking out at the ocean and the horizon. Lying on the dock looking down between the slats at the dappled water and feeling the sun on my back. Smelling lake water in the summer.


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Registered: 11-22-2009
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 2:13pm

Again, thanks for this starting this topic. :smileyhappy:

As I mentioned in another post to you, I turned to Classical Music throughout my healing years. It was a wonderful way to imagine beautiful settings and serene surroundings. It also took me back to my studies in college where one of most favorite classes was "Appreciation of Music." Even after 40 years, I still remembered my Bach, Beethoven, and Brahms. :smileylol: Other distractions:

The laugher of my grandchildren, sitting outside with a good book soaking up some rays, shopping (good therapy), reconnecting with a few friends I had lost touch with, going for drives in the country and stopping at fruit/vegetable stands, trying out new restaurants, bought a kitten, redecorated my living room, planted a gazillion flowers in my back yard.



Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 04-02-2011
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 4:59pm

For me the A occurred a long time ago when I was not fully emotionally mature so I do not have obsessive thoughts about the A. I do see my former ap as he comes into the gallery where I work from time to time. He is always friendly. I am always distant. My obsessive thoughts may be

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Registered: 06-08-2010
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 7:33pm

My distractions...let me think...

1) Drawing or painting

2) Going for a jog

3) Having coffee with a friend

4) Taking a walk with my DH

5) Watching my kids play soccer in the front yard

6) Riding horses (if I owned one, that would be much better!

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Registered: 01-20-2013
Thu, 01-24-2013 - 5:40pm

Hitting a good shot in tennis.

A hug from either of my kids.

Falling asleep in the sun at the beach and the funky dreams I have there.

A really sweaty workout.