i ended an affair. it was the right thing to do so why do i feel so sad? (long)
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|Mon, 10-18-2010 - 5:06pm|
last year, me and one of my coworkers started having an affair. i am a single 28 year old girl and he is a 43 year old married man. we had been working together for almost 3 years before the affair started and it all started when we went on a business trip together. i had always admired him as a person and a coworker but have obviously never made a move because i always believed having affairs was wrong and was against them.
the first time we had sex i immediately felt wrong about the situation but at the same time i realized exactly how attracted to him i was and how much i really cared about him. so i was silent about the whole situation for a while. when i finally did have a serious talk about the affair and his wife he said while he did feel guilty about it he was also having problems with his wife. he said he couldn't afford to divorce her because he is in debt from some bad investments and she doesn't have a job so he would be digging himself into a bigger hole financially (just for some background info, his wife is his second wife whom he had no children with. he has a grown daughter with his first wife but he got a divorce from her because she had cheated on him). he also said that things hadn't been going good between them for a couple years and despite trying couples counseling and making an effort to help the situation that they have grown apart and that she has become more of a roommate than a wife. she has also been going back and forth to her parents place in another state for the past several months.