MM told wife last night about me...
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|Sun, 05-23-2010 - 9:24pm|
I met a man through work in February, we hit it off immediately and quickly became very close despite living 16 hrs apart. However, I found out he's married when I asked him a direct question about his last relationship. He was up front when I asked but never disclosed the info prior. I made it clear I was no way interested and we would 'just be friends'. My naivety lead from one thing to another and we ended up professing our love. and spending a weekend together just a few weeks ago. It was great - we didn't have sexual relations but the time we spent together was incredible, then just last weekend we had sex and it changed everything for me.
Two days ago when I went to break it off because of the affair, I told him that I realized the complexities of him leaving his wife, I wouldn't wait (become a statistic) and would never take 2nd place but that I didn't want him to make a mistake and I applied no pressure. He told me told me he loved me and knew how I felt and really need to think about what he wanted. I agreed and set fair boundaries.
Yesterday he called me around 10:30 and we chatted for an hr or so. Then at 12:30 he called, waking me. Telling me he told his wife about me and that he loved me. Then at 5:30 I get three e-mails - one saying a email from his wife would be coming and it was because she gave him an ultimatum and they needed to rest. The second email was the 'good-bye' email approved by wife then the third was that he needed to figure out this painful nightmare and he'd call.
So needless to say - I'm really confused - my practical mind says he'll work things out with his wife but I guess I'm just confused if he didn't feel strongly why would he tell his wife (without me knowing and without me asking or saying anything).
I do love love him but now with NC today - I have no idea what is going on in his mind and am just so confused... why did he do it ? What happens now ?