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|Thu, 11-11-2010 - 4:43pm|
This will be the very condensed version of all this, it's so much to type out, I'm happy to answer any questions though! I'm in a lot of pain, he always called me his gf, and I always argued that I wasn't, so why does this feel like a break up ? MM and I work together, and started this in Feb this year, it's been a roller coaster. He goes thru the cycle, loving me, texting, wanting to be together, ect, then drops off the face of the earth. (Except, that I see him at work everyday, he just ignores me) He always claims it was because he was busy, ect, and he wasn't doing anything different. Every few weeks or months we would go thru the same cycle over and over. Well we were in the down time again, and I ended it. He didn't even have the guts to respond to me, so I asked him to say something. He said he understood, he was sorry, and I will make someone very happy one day. I got all my anger out, told him everything I ever wanted to say (he was a liar, a fake, ect ect.) I asked him to please not come to work today or tomorrow (he CAN work from home if needed), and shockingly he didn't, it is the ONE time he has ever done anything for me. I needed the break, and the space. The biggest problem is I work with him, and I handle all his stuff here, I HAVE to talk to him every day, email him, call him, ect. I don't get the option of no contact, of course I will keep it professional, but the first time he adds a smiley face, or asks me how I am in a reply, I will be back at square one. How do I do this? He will possibly be back tomorrow, for sure on Monday, and while I may be able to handle myself on the outside, I'm a mess on the inside. Before this started he WAS my best friend, and I miss that, I know that's been gone for awhile now :( MM is 46 w/ 4 kids 20,18,11 & 10 (all from his wife) , I am single w/ 2 kids who are 4, just for the stats on us. Any advice/support is very appreciated.