Promises and other Empty Lies
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|Wed, 09-17-2003 - 11:32am|
And if they did promise to leave their spouse was this a big motivation for you to stay in the affair?
The only reason I got involved with my MM is because he told me, from the beginning that he was going to leave his wife and divorce her and marry me. It's true he didn't talk about a time frame, he didn't say it would take FIVE YEARS!, so I just assumed he would follow through on his words within a few months. When he did not I was devastated and felt betrayed.
He did leave his wife but didn't have the guts or the inclination to follow through on the divorce part and ultimately went back to her. He just couldn't deal with the guilt that her pain caused him. I can understand that. That makes perfect sense to me. What I can't understand is his trying to hold on to both of us for as long as possible. To me that's just plain cruel. I'm wondering how many of you experienced that.