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|Fri, 07-27-2012 - 4:10am|
While I think that most affairs will not lead to marriage, I get annoyed when I see the old 1% statistic being thrown around. Does anyone actually ever STOP and think about what that number means? And how unlikely it is that that number is correct? First off, where did that stat come from? How accurate was the study? When was it done? Where was it done? How large was the sample?
Second, how many Ms begin with an A that nobody ever knows about? How many people begin in A, leave their Ms quietly, then get together after a period of time that does not incite suspicion?
Third, what percentage of normal dating relationships lead to marriage? It doesn't seem like that number would be very high either, because most people have to date quite a few people during their lifetime to find the one they want to marry. I now some people only date one person their whole life, but if you include ALL dates (casual dates, study dates, blind dates), I'm sure many single people at least 50 people before they settle down. And that means in those cases, regular old dating only leads to M 2% of the time! How do we know if the number is significant if we don't have something to compare it to?
Last, while it is obvious that As have many inherent problems that will lead them to be less successful that other Rs, it just seems if you look in your own life, that 1% statistic is not realistic. My sister married her AP. My brother-in-law married his AP. I know of several people who married their APs after ending their Ms. How many more do I not know about?
I just wish people would stop using that dumb statistic. And anyone who reads my posts KNOWS I'm not an optimist about the success rates of As, but I think that number is wrong, and I'm curious how anyone who just looks around can believe it is accurate.