1st ema in 2 weeks. Need advice......

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Registered: 09-25-2003
1st ema in 2 weeks. Need advice......
Wed, 10-08-2003 - 6:10pm


I am going to have an affair with an EX-BF. We dated on and off for awhile in college and got in contact w/ one another this past year. We hooked up a couple of weeks ago when HB and I visited back home. I already have my plane ticket back home in a couple of weeks. Let me also say that when I say ex-BF and I "hooked up" we absoulutely did not have sex but I truly wanted to.

My HB and I have an ok relationship. We have been together for 13yrs and married 7. We have an 8yo together and every thing is just ok. My husband is not emotional or affectionate in the least. He won't kiss me or hold me and foreplay is nonexisistant.I on the other hand am a very affectionate person. I love to hold hands and play hookey from work just to stay in bed all day together. Now on top of the no emotional anything my HB has knocked sex from maybe 2x's a week to once a month. I have tried to tell HB my needs many times. I have written letters, cried left him for acouple of days and got into a fist fight. Nothing I have said or done has influenced him to give me anything I need emotionally.

EX-BF and I have so much in common. We talk for hours on the phone and we have always been sexually compatable. We have more in common than HB and I. MY HB is a good mate and I don't think I could ever leave him but I am so emotionaly and sexually fustrated I don't know where to turn. Any advice please!!!!!