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1st physical encounter
| Fri, 10-23-2009 - 9:44am |
From reading here I know that after the 1st physical encounter the AP will normally pull away. I was wondering:
1) How long does this normally last?
2) He said that he doesn't think that he's courageous enough to do this and that unfortunately we are through. Is that a standard response?
He told me this on Monday and I haven't heard from him since.
TIA for your replies.

This happens a lot. Sometimes they come back, sometimes they're true to their word and it's over. IF he comes back, you can expect a "pull away" like this almost every time you get physical. Although it may not be as big of a pull away, he'll probably get cool and distant, making you feel miserable, over and over again. I say this only because he's already shown the "pattern" of doing this. Not all guys pull away, but if they start out doing so, it seems to continue.
Think about whether you can handle the ups and downs of a "pull away" relationship like this, over and over...
You've got a lot of choices. I
Thanks for your response.
I have something else that doesn't make any sense though. He had no problem with kissing and f!nger!ng me yet when more happened he suddenly had a problem. What's the difference? All of those things are considered cheating in my book.
Pulling away is common but should not be considered normal. It is disrespectful to a woman and should be addressed when it happens. If it continues, you want seriously reconsider having physical part, because it's unfair and hurtful to you. Kissing and fingering could be cheating in your book, but not in his. But again, anything that is not working for you, should be addressed and tried to work out. A lot of people say here that an affair is NOT a relationship - in my humble opinion, it IS and same rules apply to them - speak up to have you needs met...if they're still unmet after you tried and tried, then you have all the answers you need to move on.
Love,
GbG