2 months

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Registered: 12-24-2008
2 months
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Wed, 06-03-2009 - 10:16pm
2 months today since XAP and I "broke up" or I should say, 2 months since he twisted things around and made it look like I did something wrong so he could go running back to his wife... for the 6th time in a year and a half. A gal I work with said she lives close by to him and drives by his house every other day and his vehicle is parked in the driveway. I knew the ball-less bastard wouldn't go through with the divorce and move right back in. That's why he accused ME of playing games with him by not running right down to my attorney to start my divorce....some days are hard when my heart tries to take over, but my head reminds it of how there were more bad times then good.
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Registered: 12-25-2008
In reply to: gabby4ever2
Thu, 06-04-2009 - 3:08am

It sounds like your life will be infinitely better w/o him.

Have you considered following the No Contact Rules to make this less painful for you?

Also, here is a great website for inspiration . . .

http://www.baggagereclaim.com/

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Registered: 12-24-2008
In reply to: gabby4ever2
Thu, 06-04-2009 - 6:26am
Thanks for the info on the website, songs....I will definitely check it out. As far as NC, we work together, but we have not spoken nor even looked at each other ( well, I haven't looked anyway) for the last 2 months. I have to admit, earlier in our affair when this would happen, I would be the one to approach him and initiate conversations, but when we went NC last September, which lasted 3 months, then again this time 2 months ago, I have not even looked at him.
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Registered: 11-12-2008
In reply to: gabby4ever2
Thu, 06-04-2009 - 9:11am
(( hugs ))
Keep avoiding him.Working together can be tough when R goes sour.Sorry about the place you are in.Gradually it will fade away.
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Registered: 12-24-2008
In reply to: gabby4ever2
Thu, 06-04-2009 - 5:30pm
Thanks, punky...yeah, it's just a bad idea to get involved with a co-worker...whether you are both married or not.
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Registered: 12-29-2008
In reply to: gabby4ever2
Thu, 06-04-2009 - 11:50pm
I have been following your story.
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Registered: 12-24-2008
In reply to: gabby4ever2
Fri, 06-05-2009 - 7:11am
Thanks,scarletb....yeah, it is hard because I will be honest and say, there is a part of me that does still love him. I didn't go into this affair simply wanting fun, I really wanted a serious relationship with him which I told him upfront after HE revealed his feelings for me and yes, that's what he wanted too because he had been so unhappy and miserable for so long in his marriage. But in the end, the reality of LIFE won over his love for me and that hurts, it really does.
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Registered: 12-25-2008
In reply to: gabby4ever2
Fri, 06-05-2009 - 8:26am

But I'll say this . . . when you are having an A w/ a coworker - and things are good - you are in as early as possible, you are smiling all the time, when you have a crisis occur there is someone there who LOVES you to bits and thinks you are THE BEST, and you never miss a day of work if you can help it. Unfortunately these are far and away outweighed by the incredible pain of an A gone south w/ a coworker . .

I think you have an amazing amount of self control to go NC at work - you are so STRONG!!!