3 year A - in serious trouble
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3 year A - in serious trouble
| Fri, 07-23-2010 - 12:46pm |
Hi all..I'm new here. In a long term A with a great guy. In love and minimal drama up until now (just normal A drama...I guess!). Until this week.
OK...I know little but here goes. Apparantly he had a huge blow out with his wife about a week ago. He's been giving me little to no detail as we haven't spoken and have just texted here and there. First he said everything was fine and not to worry. Then when I texted him to check in a couple of days ago he said he had to be cautious because wife has threatened to get his phone records! WTH!?

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Second and more importantly, his wife is suspicious. Why? I have no idea.
She might be a tad bit suspicious since you actually ARE and have been having an affair with her husband for the last 3 years. What a silly question. I would just wait and let him contact you as you contacting him might make things worse all around. Good luck!
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is-love-enough...thanks for your response. How was your A eventually discovered? Was it through phone records?
I have to agree with everyone else and suggest that you lay low for awhile and let him contact you as and when he can. I would think that if you have been together for 3-years, this is not a ploy to get rid of you - there are other easier ways to do that!
That being said - if his wife is suspicious, then it probably is only a matter of time before she finds something to prove she is right. Whether that means that she will find out who you are, or just know for sure that someone else exists; I don't know.
Are you also M or are you S? Are there kids involved? All of this will probably affect how he is going to handle this. Talking about a possible D-Day and actually being confronted with one can cause all kinds of emotions that one didn't expect. He may fight like he!! to keep his marriage and W and family together.
Be patient...much, much easier said then done I know. Come here and vent and post and please keep us updated...sending you some ((((HUGS)))).
Yes...we are both married with kids.
wow- there but for the Ggace of God go any of us I think.
I really think lay low, you have been smart using a separate phone. Let him look after what he can and just see what happens.
Be prepared though for what to say to H. I am in the same situation as you and not sure what I would say. own up to it or say she/he was deluded. God.
Igyxx
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