3 year A - in serious trouble

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Registered: 07-23-2010
3 year A - in serious trouble
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Fri, 07-23-2010 - 12:46pm

Hi all..I'm new here. In a long term A with a great guy. In love and minimal drama up until now (just normal A drama...I guess!). Until this week.


OK...I know little but here goes. Apparantly he had a huge blow out with his wife about a week ago. He's been giving me little to no detail as we haven't spoken and have just texted here and there. First he said everything was fine and not to worry. Then when I texted him to check in a couple of days ago he said he had to be cautious because wife has threatened to get his phone records! WTH!?

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Registered: 07-13-2010
Sat, 07-24-2010 - 1:25am

djtjd - Our DDay was not the result of phone records discovered but I don't want to go into too much details.

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Registered: 04-27-2010
Sat, 07-24-2010 - 1:26pm

Sorry for the brief hijack of this thread...BUT good work is-love-enough :) You keep at it, girl :)

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Registered: 07-23-2010
Mon, 07-26-2010 - 3:46pm
Sorry to
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Registered: 04-27-2010
Mon, 07-26-2010 - 3:59pm
((HUGS)) Gosh, find something, anything to distract yourself. I know it's impossible not to let it consume you...
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Registered: 03-30-2010
Mon, 07-26-2010 - 4:38pm

Hi Djtjd,


Wow you both have pulled this off for 3 years and just now she's suspicious. I think you both have kept it low key really well for all that time. I think he's just being extra cautious and isn't trying to rouse any more suspicion so he's staying off the radar. This could be a stressful time for him especially if she's not giving him any space to maneuver. I know its frustrating but it comes with the territory. I do feel you on the frustration of not knowing all the details and he probably didn't tell you any of it so you don't have to worry about it.


As hard as it may be just keep low until he contacts you. Cell phone records are the worse because its so easy to get #'s, dates, times

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 07-13-2010
Mon, 07-26-2010 - 5:51pm
I'm so sorry for how you are feeling djtjd.
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Registered: 07-23-2010
Fri, 07-30-2010 - 6:44pm

Sorry I am bumping my own thread again. I haven't heard from AP in a week. I am seriously on the verge of losing it.

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Registered: 02-06-2010
Sat, 07-31-2010 - 4:27am
OMG -- if u really love this man, give him a freaking break!! his WIFE has found out that he has been cheating on her for 3 years --and yes you are disposable.
when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal
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Registered: 04-11-2010
Sun, 08-01-2010 - 2:24am

dj I feel for you- I think it must be terribly hard for you right now and I wuld also be wavering between annoyance and sadness.


Hopefully he just being really careful and will be in touch soon.


Iggy xx

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Registered: 06-25-2007
Sun, 08-01-2010 - 10:54am

Hi DJ

You must be out of your mind at the moment and I know I would be exactly the same in this position. I have nothing that will help except a huge cyber hug and loads of hoping that he will contact you. I think its a done deal that whoever has the dday makes contact first but I would like to think in those circumstances I would keep OM informed. Hard to say how we will react but I know I would be worried sick if I was unable to contact him because of MY dday so maybe he is worried about you and just unable to contact you. I doubt very much he is hating you.

Keep posting and let us know how you are and what happens.

Bird