3 year A - in serious trouble

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2010
3 year A - in serious trouble
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Fri, 07-23-2010 - 12:46pm

Hi all..I'm new here. In a long term A with a great guy. In love and minimal drama up until now (just normal A drama...I guess!). Until this week.


OK...I know little but here goes. Apparantly he had a huge blow out with his wife about a week ago. He's been giving me little to no detail as we haven't spoken and have just texted here and there. First he said everything was fine and not to worry. Then when I texted him to check in a couple of days ago he said he had to be cautious because wife has threatened to get his phone records! WTH!?

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Registered: 06-25-2007
Sun, 08-01-2010 - 11:04am

Hi DJ

You must be out of your mind at the moment and I know I would be exactly the same in this position. I have nothing that will help except a huge cyber hug and loads of hoping that he will contact you. I think its a done deal that whoever has the dday makes contact first but I would like to think in those circumstances I would keep OM informed. Hard to say how we will react but I know I would be worried sick if I was unable to contact him because of MY dday so maybe he is worried about you and just unable to contact you. I doubt very much he is hating you.

Keep posting and let us know how you are and what happens.

Bird

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2010
Wed, 08-11-2010 - 4:52pm

Hi all..sorry bumping my own post again!


Long story short. Heard from AP after 2 weeks of silence. From what he told me, he was able to convince his wife he's not having an A, but things are still bad with them and she asked for a separation.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-11-2010
Wed, 08-11-2010 - 9:55pm

Oh DJ


I am in the same place. A few nice texts, a few lovely hours here and there- but thats it! Is it enough - particularly when we are cake-eaters (ie happy to have this on the side forever). It was always supposed to add some fun and frolic to our lives- not take away from our overall happiness.


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