7 calls so far today....

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Registered: 12-24-2008
7 calls so far today....
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Sat, 02-28-2009 - 6:49pm
OMG....well, yesterday at work, AP and I had a talk in the morning. He told me that he had paid or was going to pay another month lease on his place and I asked him why if he was back living with her and he said because he wasn't sure about things. I asked where things stood with her, were they "working" on their marriage and he said no, she knew how he felt and wants him to get his head straightened out. He then told me he wasn't the one that sent me that text message last week about loving his wife more, he hugged me, kissed me...before he left at the end of the day I told him to have a good weekend and he said he would be texting me because "that's all we have"...he texted me last night and said something about "yeah, that went well, should've stayed in the bar, I can't get you out of my heart and head"...then told me he loved me and would text me in the morning. He had to work this morning and would be able to text freely...I sent him one first saying "good morning, thinking of you" and he responded about "thinking of you and all the things" and that was it...well, he told me Wednesday the reason he went back was because "someone" told him that they saw me and my husband out somewhere holding hands and looking all in love, which is a lie, and he began to think I was just trying to break up his marriage for revenge and making him look like a fool...I was like, whatever...that is a lie, you know it's a lie and I've never done anything to make you not trust ME....so, his last text today was that he was thinking of all that and didn't want to be made a fool of ( what a joke) and we needed to talk....K, whatever, here's the other odd thing...I've been receiving calls from "UNAVAILABLE" all day...7 so far, and they never leave a message so I suspect that he must've talked to her last night, just from what he said in his text about "that not going well" ( they were supposed to go out last night to celebrate her and some other relatives birthday) and now she's trying to call me..i don't know who else it would be. I don't feel like talking to her...I've done it before and she doesn't listen to anything I tell her and accuses me of lying about everything....I just wish I knew what he tells her..if he lies and tells her that I won't leave him alone ( he's done that before according to what she told me one time) or if he told her honestly how he felt and now she's pissed....gawd...I know, I brought it on myself by not keeping my mouth shut the other day...but I couldn't help it, damnit, I was tired of him acting like I had no feelings and I was just a piece of crap to kick to the curb with no explanation. Thanks for listening to me, ladies.

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Registered: 12-24-2008
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 5:30pm
Goddess, sorry if my posts bore you. I AM taking everyones advice to heart, but it also HELPS me to talk about these things and get them off my chest. I have no one in "real life" to talk about what is going on, so this is a sounding board for me and I'm sorry if some people find it offensive, but I thought that's what this board was for...discussion, advice, support. This has been very hard on me and yes, I admit, I was wrong for letting him back in after 3 months, but I did. Everyone has been wonderful for reading and responding to my posts and I appreciate you all.
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Registered: 12-06-2007
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 6:23pm

Gabby, your posts are more frustrating than boring.

 

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Registered: 12-24-2008
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 7:59pm
I know, obxbell, I know what needs to be done. It's just that talking about what he's told me and how I'm feeling helps me....I'm tired of feeling this way. I know he's playing a game...just the fact that he's telling me he's confused and needs to straighten out his head, the fact that he's trying to make me believe that someone is telling him something about me that upsets him, that he's just playing this game to buy himself some time. He lies to me, he lies to his wife, he wants the best of both worlds and it can't be that way. I DO listen to your advice and it helps me to get through everyday!
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Registered: 12-06-2007
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 9:32pm

Just please promise me that you will back up what you say on here in REAL LIFE.

 

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