? about getting a hotel room

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2004
? about getting a hotel room
10
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 2:21pm
Hello all. Hope things are going well with your MM/OM/OW/MW.

Yesterday I was thinking about when the time comes to get a hotel room. I'm very uncomfortable with bringing my MM to my home, so it will need to be a hotel room.

My question is this - HOW?? I mean, I know how you make reservations, etc. But how does he make a reservation and put it on his credit card, without the W knowing about this? Do the major chains let you make a reservation with a credit card, but check out and use cash??

Also, what if the hotel decides to send a receipt or a survey to his home. No way he could explain that way. Do the hotels ask for a photo idea and write down your address?

I swear, this is one part of the A I never thought of!

Any help or tips would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks, and enjoy your day! :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-14-2004
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 3:06pm
Sadly, I do know the answer to this. Yes, they will hold your reservation with a credit card but you can pay cash and there will be nothing charged to your card. Just make sure when you check in you let them know up front that you are paying cash. I also asked about whether anything would be sent to my address and they said no. They don't ask for your ID, but they do ask for your address. Of course, you could probably just give them a fake address. But they won't let you stay under a fake name as far as I know.

Good luck.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2004
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 3:20pm
Hi sweetie:

At the risk of sounding like I know too much about this, I just wanted to add:

-you don't necessarily need to make a reservation at all if you pick a weekday and a kinda quiet (empty) hotel, just walk in. Many hotels have a day rate until 3 pm, you have to ask for it, they don't advertise this, obviously.

-bring extra cash (lots) and see if they'll let you pay cash and leave a cash security deposit (they should issue you a receipt) and not show them a credit card at all (at the hotel we go to, this is ok)

-one of you will likely need to show a drivers' license with photo and address/phone. In my country (Canada) they cannot use this info for any purpose (e.g. mailings) unless you sign a release, maybe it's different in the US.

-be nice and discreet and leave the room in a decent state, and they will be perfectly nice back. You are not the first unmarried couple they've ever seen!

-stick with the same place in the future, if they get to know you, they will eventually give you a discount. My OMM is now all buddy-buddy with the desk guy at our regular hotel. When I walk in they say politely, "he's in room X " . Expect respect and you'll get it.

have fun, sweet!

barefootgirl

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 3:38pm
Hey barefoot I'm from Canada too. And same here, I only had to walk in and the desk clerk would tell me what room he was in. And the manager was on a first name basis with him.

Sigh, I miss those good times.

Dusty
xxxx
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-10-2004
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 3:45pm
When my MM is in town he reserves a room on his company card since he combines trips here with business. However, last time he wasn't here on business and I made the reservations. Since this is a very small town, and everybody either knows or is related to everyone else (LOL) I wanted to be very careful. I made the reservation in person, used a fake name & address and paid with cash. No questions asked. They did not ask to see an ID, and since I paid in full with cash they had no need for anything else from me.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2004
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 4:00pm
hey dusty -- girl, i've been searching for you! i lost your email addy. please email me so we can catch up. soon!!

life

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2004
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 4:05pm
Hi Dusty, nice to meet another Canadian! :)

barefoot

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 4:10pm
Hi there, I just sent you an email, take care,

Dusty
xxxx
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 4:13pm
Hi again. I'm just feeling a little down today, its been 3 weeks today since last talked with MM. I don't know what's going on, but I've been dumped I guess. I just really miss our times together which were always spent at 'our' hotel.

Anyways, have a nice night.

Dusty

xxxx
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2004
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 4:50pm
Dusty, I'm so sorry about that. It's a position that all of us are going to be in sometime...I try not to let the idea of this A ending cloud my enjoyment of it in the present, but I know that time will come for me, too. Once after my OMM and I had an argument, he told me that all the good memories will always be mine and nobody, including him, will ever take them away from me. He said, "right now at this moment, we're crazy about each other, girlie. Anything that happens in the future can't change what this moment was like." I found that comforting...treasure your memories, Dusty!

hugs

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2004
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 11:12pm
Thank you Barefootgirl and Omahamm for your suggestions. Omaha you said, "Sadly you knew..." Why sadly, if I may ask.

As much as I'm looking forward to the time when we use these suggestions, I know things will definately change for us. My fear is they will not change for the better. I suppose my biggest fear is he will be overcome by guilt and want to end things. So I'm taking things slowly.