About to meet HER!!!
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About to meet HER!!!
| Wed, 09-09-2009 - 10:46pm |
So because we some what work together and our circle of friends and associates overlaps a lot, I'm about to come face to face with HER - the Mrs., my unbeknownst to her, nemesis!!

This is the time when your ideas about what sort of life he has at home come to question. Seeing her as a real woman just like you may cause you to review his excuses to why he is with you. Disliking the W is easy when they have no "face" and they are just an object that your AP goes home to every night. If you do like her, then you will most probably have the added guilt that she cant be as bad as portrayed by your AP.
I certainly do not envy you on this holiday but i really hope you manage to get around this potential sticky mess. Have a great trip!
SB
Well, from experience, I (by accident) after this 4th of July got taken by surprise by my AP's wife. I was at my work talking to him in the hallways when his wife appear out of no where! Let me tell you... its not pleasant seeing her face to face. I only had to be there for a minute then ran the opposite way. It just makes me so jealous seeing her and all these other emotions come through you...
I really feel sorry for you... is there anyway you can NOT go?
OMG! ((HUGS)) to you!! I too am dreading the day I have to meet Mrs AP. I met her years ago in passing when they were first dating but just said Hi and didn't think anything of it at the time since we weren't a we yet.
now is the time for the men on this board to come forward...
ok, mm in a's, this lovely situation is a perfect example of
how female ap is expected to 'accept' the 'other' woman in her
r with you, however, your w is not expected to accept your ap
as the 'ow' in your a.
do you even have an inkling of what the emotional trauma the
female ap is expected to endure but you protect your w from the
same trauma...does this put any of this into any perspective at all
for the mm.....
do mm ap's have any concept of how degrading this situation is
did not mean to exclude mw with sm ap, but it is more the
norm on this board for sw to be involved with mm
having been a sw in an a with mm, all i can do is offer advice now
from the looking outside of the fishbowl response. when you are
emotionally tied up in an a with a mm as a sw, you will always
be on the losing end, period. he has no motivation to leave his m,
he is getting away with the a, so he has nothing to lose, and
if and when d day comes, he will blame it all on the sw. plain and
simple.
as far as mw and mm in an a, i cannot comment, as i don't have
the experience on that side of the fence to comment, but sw in an
a with mm, mm will also do what he can to 'keep control' of the
situation at all costs, which means just as you suspected,
your pov means nothing.
UGH!