Absolutely crushed, what to think??
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| Mon, 07-12-2010 - 10:47am |
I'm totally heartbroken and shocked and have no idea what to think.
So we were supposed to have an overnight last night at a hotel. We last talked Wednesday, because I was going away until Sunday. We discussed location and time, and he wanted to book the room. That was the last I heard from him. Saturday night I texted him, asking if we were still on, and got no response. Then a bit later I texted again, saying if he was thinking of bailing, he needed to let me know. No response. That's about when I started having a breakdown, but I didn't text anymore. Sunday as we're driving home, I get a bunch of messages from him, saying that he never heard back from me again on Wednesday and I never responded to his texts, so he thought it was off and that I wasn't going to be back in time. He also said he wasn't able to text me until just then because he had lost his cell charger. In his messages, he said multiple times he didn't know if it was still happening so he hadn't done anything, and asked if there was anything wrong with my phone. He said we could still have our night but that maybe we should wait until we have more time. I wrote back that I still wanted to (Even though I was in an awful mood by then) because I didn't now when we'd get another chance and that if we didn't, it didn't seem like it was ever going to happen. NO RESPONSE. that was YESTERDAY. So he spent the whole evening we should have been together NOT texting me back. Eventually I wrote to him and just said really, are you seriously not going to even answer, what am I supposed to think, that is really harsh. No response.
I texted him this morning (I know he is at work) and said that if he was thinking of bailing on us, he needed to let me know because this was just mean and cruel. NO RESPONSE.
Honestly, what am I supposed to think? I mean, I guess it should be clear what I should be thinking. Was he lying about all that? Did he just wussy out and felt too much guilt to made up this bogus lie? The thing is, he does always forget his charger, and actually my phone has been acting up the last couple weeks so its CONCEIVABLE but just a little too convenient for me.
If he doesn't want us anymore, why doesn't he just say so, why does he keep coming back? I half expect no response from him for a day and then suddenly I'll get a response saying how sorry he is, let him make it up to me, bla bla bla.
I am so crushed and so hurt. I have been looking forward to last night for soooooo long.
I'm trying to tell my heart that it's over. But I also don't want to fully accept that.
What should I do? Other than just getting over him?
Help.

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yep..sounds fishy. Just posted about making an effort...Seems to me that if he wanted his night with you and he couldn't text you, or had a dead phone or hadn't heard from you he would have found a way. How about picking up a new phone charger? They sell them everywhere. I must have 2 dozen of them myself!! LOL
I'm sorry Lucy. If you wants to make it right with you...he will find a way.
It's way to convenient and you're right, it's confusing. What he meant was he never heard anything back from me after our texting on Wednesday, then I left for the weekend, and his phone died Friday so he didn't get my Saturday texts.
But you are all totally right - there are other ways he could have contacted me and if he really wanted this, he would have tried.
I think that he wussied out and got nervous and bailed and is covering his ass. But he's leaving the door open but mentioning 'next time' but the fact that he is just ignoring me now is SOOOOO hurtful and unexpected! I feel like this came out of nowhere.
All I can do is just sit back and hope he texts me. Honestly, the silence and ignoring is worse than actually having him say he can't do this anymore. The silence hurts me so deeply. I just can't believe it came to this. When for weeks he was the one initiating all the texts, telling me how much he was looking forward to seeing me, thinks about me all the time, bullsh*t bullsh*t bullsh*t
This hurts.
I'm so sorry, lucy :(.
I know you had some concerns about him continuing the A once your contract was up, and that he seemed to really step up to the plate at the time.
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Lucy,
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I swear men are the ones that start so much DRAMA! And when you're finally fed up and act on it...we're the crazy ones, psychos, drama queens. blech!!! My AP wigs over EVERYTHING!
'..Honestly, the silence and ignoring is worse than actually having him say he can't do this anymore'
The silence and ignoring IS him saying he can't do this anymore. Sorry.