Abusive Husband

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Registered: 04-02-2012
Abusive Husband
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Mon, 04-02-2012 - 4:55pm

First.. let me thank you for reading my story.. I need all the advice I can get. I Have been married for 11 years together 15. We have one child together.. two from my previous marriage. My Husband is an abuser. I have been Shoved. things thrown at me, chased with his first in the air. Called all kinds of names..etc etc.. list goes on and on. Wasn't till recently did it dawn on my that i am a victim of abuse. My Husband has never been there emotionally for me.

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Registered: 10-26-2010
Mon, 04-02-2012 - 9:57pm
My question is, would his wife have known he was getting a rose? If so, then it seems natural that he would give it to her.
Did you mentioned you were going to give your to your daughter, shortly after the race? Could he have assumed this meant the rose wasn't that sentimental to you, after all you were giving yours away?
You should never be afraid to share how you feel with your AP (affair partner) although I know this is easier said then done and with your background, I know you are conditioned not to rock the boat.
If you don't share how you felt your AP won't know. I do think the thought of giving you the rose never crossed his mind.
~Sunny~
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Registered: 04-02-2012
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 11:07am
Thank you for response... no she didn't know about the rose... And wasn't till ride home I mentioned I will give mine to my daughter.. In hopes he would say who he was giving his to. I know it isn't a big deal... But just a reminder I am not #1 always. when we are together .... It is like no one else exist ... Guess it was just a reminder that really hurt.
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Registered: 10-03-2011
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 8:19pm

Hugs alana! I feel your hurt. there is nothing much I can say, except that you're right. All part of having an A with someone who is married to another. I hope you take care of yourself. You sound like a good person with a lot to give. No one deserves to be verbally abused or shoved around. I have been there and it is something that no woman deserves.