Adulterer, here's my response to you....

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Adulterer, here's my response to you....
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Mon, 01-12-2004 - 4:02pm
i couldn't post from your thread, so i'm trying a new thread in order to get a response to you.

ye gads adult -- your MM is a true MANIPULATOR!! he cannot say what he means OR mean what he says and now you're the bad guy because you didn't understand him OR read his freakin' mind!! what's up with that?!

okay, i'm finished ranting too. just to set the record straight, you two need to sit down somewhere quiet and talk. you need to admit that you don't just want MM for sex but were keeping back feelings because the rules were set at the outset of the A and you also didn't want to get hurt, and still don't. but since you are both married, and you apparently are happily married (an oxomoron when having an A, i think!), be very, very careful where you go with this situation/A from here. and your MM must be clear in what he wants and needs from you. no more of this talking in circles, for goodness sake!

so the question is -- what do you want? do you crave the excitement and attention from MM? do you want to experience the ups and downs of the rollercoaster, or do you want to get off and work on your M??

i, for one, cannot stand game-playing in any R, certainly not in an A because there's precious little time together anyway, and why spend that bit of time resorting to games and not being clear about the R? it's just stupid and wasteful, as far as i can tell!

honey, you need to decide where you want to go from here. not what's best for MM or his crazy W, or your H, but YOU! this A doesn't sound like it's a good thing. if that's the case, i'd bag it! it's not worth all this effort and aggravation.

sorry if i sound harsh, but i just cannot stand the way you're being treated here. stand up for yourself, girl, and call MM on his stupid actions! communication is KEY!

just my opinion,

gurl

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Registered: 01-09-2004
Tue, 01-13-2004 - 2:03pm
Hi Gurl,

First Thank You for your input!! You girls make me stronger!!!! I am like a freaking ping pong ball with my emotions lately sad, bitter down right angry!!! Is it worth NO so I cant help thinking what the hell is wrong with me ! Well I am tired of it!!! I didnt go looking or for that matter start this !!! But I am the one hurting your right it is manipulation!!! I posted in the other thread that I will be going in for surgery on Monday and from then on it will be NC but then again I never contact so I dont know how that will work but I cannot take much more when it is taking over my life. I am alone alot due to H's work sch. but maybe I will start a hobby !!! I am not going to wreck my life thats for sure!! I have to laugh I was thinking if he ever told anyone that knows us about me they wouldnt beleive him anyway he isnt ecxactly my type he is kind of dorky in that attractive kind of way!! And H would never believe it !!!! MM also said I was out of his league that is why he never attempted the A earlier. I dont base things on looks when what I thought was generally beautiful on the inside !!! Maybe I should base it on looks lol!!! But unfortunetly I dont damn me !!!! Well Thank you gurl and all the other who have helped me see the light!!! I wonder how long it will for me to give in again? Should we take bets!!!! well Thanks again