Advice from all, but male AP especially

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Registered: 08-08-2009
Advice from all, but male AP especially
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Mon, 08-10-2009 - 7:03pm
A little back ground, been in a EMR for almost 3 years. It started out slow with emotional attachments from my AP. In the last 6 months he has been very loving, and has his little names for me. At the end of most of my emails I tell him I love him. It started slowly. He's getting divorced, was served papers. I'm moving at the end of the week. Now early in our relationship I could never really get him to help me with work on my car, if I offered to pay for lunch, he never said no, or get him to my house. Today he helped me size a room, wants to offer to help buy me furniture for my apt, bought me speakers for my laptop, and he's going to work on my car, and help me move some furniture out of my house. I offered to buy him lunch today, and he flat out refused to let me pay, he read me rental agreement. I love it, he's taking total charge. he's doing a total turn around. What is with the sudden change. He is still living home until the divorce is final, our time is limited right now. I'm wondering about him. He holds my hand, my body, really kisses me, more then ever. He's very affectionate.

MoonUnit

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Registered: 08-08-2009
Tue, 08-11-2009 - 3:18pm
He was served a couple fo days ago, but he knew this was coming for a while. They started really talking about it 2 months ago. His wife wanted the divorce.

MoonUnit

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Tue, 08-11-2009 - 7:49pm
It's obvious you want to be told that his change in behavior is because of you, but the fact is that is doesn't take 3 years to start feeling emotional and connected to someone. Two weeks....four weeks...doesn't matter. He's "feeling close"is probably
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Tue, 08-11-2009 - 8:52pm
"It's obvious you want to be told that his change in behavior is because of you, but the fact is that is doesn't take 3 years to start feeling emotional and connected to someone. "

MoonUnit

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Registered: 06-29-2009
Wed, 08-12-2009 - 5:36pm

Have you asked him? Who knows what he wants? Maybe he's becoming clingy until he gets more comfortable as a single guy. Maybe he really wants to be in a mutually committed relationship with you? Maybe his ego is just battered.

Ask him.

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Wed, 08-12-2009 - 8:39pm
He is not free and clear just yet. I am, so to speak, but I still have to be careful. He wants to date. It was so nice today. We went out to eat, then shopping together doing normal stuff. It felt so good to be with him. We spent over 8 hours together today, then talked on messanger for about an hour.

MoonUnit

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Sat, 08-15-2009 - 7:06am

Moonunit,


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