Advice from any men on the board

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Registered: 06-17-2010
Advice from any men on the board
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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 5:18pm
I am a MW who got played by a SM. So good old FB.....I hooked up with an old classmate on FB, and we had been chatting, messaging, etc. for over a year. All innocent. Then one night he sends me a message with his ph # telling me to text him. So I did. At first the texts were purely innocent. Then I had a few drinks after work one night and sent some more flirty texts. After that the talk got very racy. Pics were exchanged, etc. He happens to live in the same town as my parents, so I went to visit them one weekend and ended up hooking up with him. We had the most incredible sex. For 2 weeks after that things got really hot and heavy. We exclaimed how great it was...."best ever" were his exact words, and talked about when we could see each other again. Then out of the clear blue....literally overnight, he quit texting. I texted and emailed with no response. Finally after a few days, me texted me and said he had gotten back with his girlfriend, and had a hard time juggling women. I told him, no problem, but you could have told me that up front. So I didnt talk to him for about 2 weeks. THen I found out that my work was sending me to his town for a week to train a new employee. Well, that was a fantasy of ours come true. So I sent him a text and told him I was going to be in town, would he like to get together for drinks with me, and another mutual friend of ours. I was trying to keep it totally innocent so he wouldnt think I was trying to seduce him (which of course what I was hoping for). He said he would love to get together. Then the next day he sends me a text that says "FYI....I have to behave next week." I texted him back and said, "No problem. We dont even have to get together if you dont want too". He responds "no, I really want to see you". Then the rest of the night he spends trying to dirty text me, etc. The next day, he sends me a text that says "sorry about some of those texts I sent last night". I texted back, "which ones....the ones where you wanted me or the ones where you didnt?". He never responds and proceeds to ignore the rest of my texts I send him. So I go to his town for work, and text and ask if he is wanting to get drinks or not......no response. So I am pissed and thinking, what an a**. So me and my friend go out for drinks and low and behold, just who happens to be there.....HIM. So to make a long story short, he comes over to our table, we hang out all night and then we go back to his place. I finally just said look......be a man and say what you want. Yes, I will stay, NO, i will leave....doesnt matter either way, but quit playing this game. So he says YES....I stay, we have incredible sex again, and guess what....I havent heard from him since. I am SO hurt, mad at myself, and not really understanding how someone can be so into you one minute and not literally the next. Seriously....there was no dwindling down, or anything....it was hot/heavy to NOTHING. Are men really that big of pigs???

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-03-2005
Fri, 06-18-2010 - 6:12pm
You are smart...but I bet you do hear from him again.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2010
Fri, 06-18-2010 - 11:39pm
who knows if I will or not. Of course I hope I do......if nothing else, so I can ignore him back.....haha. :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2010
Sat, 06-19-2010 - 1:21am

Well I say your self-cofidence should be boosted!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2010
Sat, 06-19-2010 - 10:29am

Well thanks Jane! That made my day.:)

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-06-2010
Sun, 06-20-2010 - 11:11pm
I am a man here, and there is only one word to describe him, "player" period. He is only interested in sex with you...maybe his dream come true! I also have to say that he sounds a little bit immature when it comes to how to treat a woman. I agree, you will hear from him again. His is single, but probably in several relationship
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Registered: 06-17-2010
Mon, 06-21-2010 - 2:33pm
Yep....that is pretty much my concensus....I was played by a player. Oh well....live and learn.....:)

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