Just like the other person who responded to you, I am not going to be all high and mighty either as we all have done wrong by others, else we wouldn't be here.
The truth is though, you say you are fulfilled in your marriage. Just to be honest and as sincere as I can be, it sounds like you are in denial. It is not possible to be fulfilled and yet want something outside of what you have at home. If you are in love with your H then my advice is to let go of the A and work on your marriage. That may not be what you wanted to hear, but it is the truth. The ONLY way I would suggest otherwise is if you know beyond the shadow of a doubt that this AP you have is the ONE that you are suppose to spend the rest of your life with. If you are so in love with your AP that it would be worth losing your H and your BF at the same time, then by all means, keep moving forward with the A. But from the sounds of it, that is not the case.
Something keeps drawing you two together and you need to figure out what that something is. If it is strictly the sex that brings you two together then try to figure out what is lacking in your sex life with your H so that the two of you can have what you use your AP to fulfill. If it is emotional, then try looking into counseling with your H to help you build better communications with him. If funds are a problem, all local health departments/social services
The last thing I want to do is come across as high and mighty because none of us here is above reproach.
Hi Katily,
Just like the other person who responded to you, I am not going to be all high and mighty either as we all have done wrong by others, else we wouldn't be here.
The truth is though, you say you are fulfilled in your marriage. Just to be honest and as sincere as I can be, it sounds like you are in denial. It is not possible to be fulfilled and yet want something outside of what you have at home. If you are in love with your H then my advice is to let go of the A and work on your marriage. That may not be what you wanted to hear, but it is the truth. The ONLY way I would suggest otherwise is if you know beyond the shadow of a doubt that this AP you have is the ONE that you are suppose to spend the rest of your life with. If you are so in love with your AP that it would be worth losing your H and your BF at the same time, then by all means, keep moving forward with the A. But from the sounds of it, that is not the case.
Something keeps drawing you two together and you need to figure out what that something is. If it is strictly the sex that brings you two together then try to figure out what is lacking in your sex life with your H so that the two of you can have what you use your AP to fulfill. If it is emotional, then try looking into counseling with your H to help you build better communications with him. If funds are a problem, all local health departments/social services
Thank you!
Hi Sweetpea,
Again, I'm not disagreeing with any points you've made.