advice I should have listened to...

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advice I should have listened to...
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Sat, 04-17-2004 - 9:24am
I should have listened to the girl before I got married that told me I was marrying a selfish ice queen.

I should have listened to a friend last spring who told me, "Move out, honey. Don't get into another relationship until you're done being married. Get some space."

I should have listened to my OW who told me "if you don't take action to move out soon, I think something is breaking between us you might not be able to fix."


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Registered: 09-16-2003
Sat, 04-17-2004 - 10:06am
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Edited 4/25/2004 8:38 am ET ET by julietsfate
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sat, 04-17-2004 - 10:15am
((((((Rain)))))))))

Oh sweety, what's going on?

Tell us. Maybe we can help. We're here for you.

You have helped me so much, I want to help you.

Don't worry - things will be okay.

Red

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Registered: 10-13-2003
Sat, 04-17-2004 - 12:49pm
((((Rain)))), whats up?
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Registered: 10-22-2003
Sat, 04-17-2004 - 1:15pm
Wasn't gonna post today Rain, but you got me (and everyone else) concerned about you. Are you OK??? Please let us know! Whatever is going on just hang in there. You are on the right track and you WILL make it through.

GB2

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Registered: 01-03-2004
Sat, 04-17-2004 - 1:58pm
((((((RAIN))))))))

What's the matter, honey? Your pain is radiating in waves off my screen. How can we help?

We're all here for you. Let us know....please.



Cazrida

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Registered: 01-02-2004
Sat, 04-17-2004 - 2:26pm
(((Rain))) - I hope everything is OK with you. Your post sounded pretty serious, and not at all like your usual posts do. Please let us know everything is OK.

((hugs))

Circe

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Registered: 03-05-2004
Sat, 04-17-2004 - 5:44pm
I know you want everything to go smoothy with your split from W . I wanted that when I divorced my EX. I tried so hard to make it happen. I had a friend that divorced her husband and now they are best friends! He even stood up in her wedding this last time she got married. Sometimes it just can't work that way. I had to realize that what is reality for some is a fantasy for others. I was dealing with a completely different type of personality. But there is still a chance for it to happen for you. My friend told me that they had a period of time that they hated each other and things were not good. I think everyone needs to go through that name calling ,I hate you period ! To have a complete separation anyways. Just a thought. Hang in there! Each day brings something new. My MM is trying to keep things civil between him and his W during the split too. I think it is half our trouble!

Hugs,

trouble
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Registered: 03-05-2004
Sat, 04-17-2004 - 5:51pm
By the way, the last time MM was here and we were talking , he said I am about ready to give up women all together! I can't seem to please either one of you! Do you ever feel that way ? I think you made me realize something! Wow, Your GOOOOOOOOOOD!
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Registered: 11-21-2003
Sat, 04-17-2004 - 8:53pm
Rain..

I know we have not posted to each other on here, I do read your posts, they are very well written and make alot of sense, so if you ever need to talk let me know, we are all here for you

HUGS

SB

 Seeburg    

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Registered: 03-04-2004
Sun, 04-18-2004 - 11:02am
wow... thanks for everyone's warm thoughts...

yes, I was really frustrated and kinda lost at 7:30am Saturday when I posted, but mostly I was just thinking how I hadn't listened to people giving me good advice or warnings.

OW and I had kind of an unpleasant round Friday overnight around 2am... we'd never really been like that, and while we made up we were both a little frayed. So I left early to run errands, and one of those took me to work where I decided to post. I didn't really mean to sound so doom and gloom, it just hit me really hard that if I'd just followed those three pieces of advice my life would be so much easier... but of course, easier doesn't mean better.

Strange... it's really like everyone's love and energy changed the whole day. I wondered how it all turned around, maybe you all had something to do with it... "power of prayer" or equivalent... I do want to share my Saturday story because it was really simple but affirming, and now I'm starting to feel like maybe so much positivity had some effect on it.

love you all, and thanks so much. I really feel like I have friends here. I have kind of an amazing story about the rest of the day to share later...

rain


Edited 4/18/2004 11:56 am ET ET by raining_confusion

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