Advice Please...Dating while with MM
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| Tue, 04-13-2004 - 5:54pm |
Now, I went for drinks last night with another man that I have noticed looking at me for the last few months. He finally approached me a week or so ago and I thought it would be nice to at least make another friend. (I have only been living in my area for six months and am still getting to know people.) We went out and there was an amazing connection. We have a lot in common and it was truly a great time. He wants to see me more on a romantic level, starting this weekend. :-)
I am looking at my future now and I am extremely torn. Do I choose to spend the duration of my R with MM (a man that I know was born to be a part of my life) spending weekends alone and only having physical contact when he shows up at my apartment for an hour before work? OR, do I try dating this sweet great SINGLE guy that I have amazing physical (though nothing has happened yet) and mental chemistry with, who wants to do things with me and be seen with me, and the only thing that I have found missing in him is that he isn't MM?
I talked to MM a little about this and he said he knows he has no right to tell me he doesn't want me to date, but I know he wishes I wouldn't. Is there a way that I can maintain both right now....at least until I KNOW which I would choose? I really don't want to do anything that would ultimately hurt my SM. Maybe this is easier than I am making it, I've just never had two men that I am very attracted to wanting to be with me also. ADVICE (or a smack in the head) PLEASE!!!!!
Thanks

Best of luck - be happy!
And thanks for the whack in the head. I always appreciate someone who can hand me one of those. LOL It does seem like an easy choice, except for the part of me that doesn't want to let go of MM.........
Listen to these women. Be with the SM. You will be better off in the long run and much happier too. Why stay with MM if you (we all know) know what is going to happen..
Some of us have been in this a long time and the more time you are in it the harder it is to leave. It's that physical and emotional attachment thing that's hard to let go of, :)..
It's funny about that dating thing. I'm single (divorced), he's M. We've talked about me dating. He told me not to. He didn't like the idea of me being with another man. Actually, he just likes his cake and he wants the only one to
See if you are thinking of MM less and less with each day and are enjoying being with SM. If you feel that thoughts of MM recur less and less, thats a good test that SM has what it takes to get you over MM.
:)
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is a MM but no kids..but the same heartaches follow.
Good Luck to you...keep in touch..
Bunny
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