Doesnt your AP feel guilty for his W and kids? If he doesnt,he is playing with your head.They usually come back when sex with W gets back to routine work.If its EA,then things are different.its a catch 22 ! In EA, sexual tension and emotions are so much at a high,you cant break off and in PA,the sex is so great and hidden from others that you want it again ! But many people,despite of a lot of awareness,dont consider EA as A's.Once you have sex,everything changes. My A was PA ,and no matter my exAP was the worst anyone can ever have ( 4 women and a W!)but the sex we had was the most amazing. Sorry to ramble but they all play games.
I´ve said it before and I´ll say it again, - I´m sorry your xap was such a sh*t, but please please don´t generalize by saying "they all play games" as it is a fact. You can´t possibly know that. Generalizing is wrong and never a good thing.
My AP and I set the ground rules for our A before we even started. We have a history and now each other very well. Good and bad. We are not leaving our spouses for each other. There are many reasons and if we want to have an A we have to accept things the way they are. We don´t play games, we don´t have or need to. For us it´s love with a capital L.
My A was PA ,and no matter my exAP was the worst anyone can ever have ( 4 women and a W!)but the sex we had was the most amazing.
Sorry to ramble but they all play games.
This is my first A, but I think the other poster is right, they all play games.
Gal,
I´ve said it before and I´ll say it again, - I´m sorry your xap was such a sh*t, but please please don´t generalize by saying "they all play games" as it is a fact. You can´t possibly know that. Generalizing is wrong and never a good thing.
My AP and I set the ground rules for our A before we even started. We have a history and now each other very well. Good and bad. We are not leaving our spouses for each other. There are many reasons and if we want to have an A we have to accept things the way they are. We don´t play games, we don´t have or need to. For us it´s love with a capital L.