Affair with a client?

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Registered: 12-12-2003
Affair with a client?
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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 9:39am

I know this is probably bad business but I can't help myself. Umm..first of all, new here. A little background.


I'm married with children, love, but dislike my husband for issues that 'aren't the point' or factor, I have a home business and work out of my home. I see clients everyday with my business (my H works outside

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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 11:01am
I'm in the same situation. At first though when it was flirty, I stopped it and said our friendship and working relationship was too important and we had to keep it professional. That lasted about a week. The connection between us is so intense and we don't even see each other very often - mostly telephone. We are now talking daily about moving to the next level of our EMA (physical) and I can't wait. I'm to the point no matter what, I want to be with him. I too feel as though it's going to happen and we've been friends so long, hopefully if it doesn't work, at least that can continue in some way. The hardest part for me is that my H knows what our working relationship is (meetings/dinners, etc) and trusts me completely with him.

Last night for instance, I talked to him for 30 minutes sitting in my living room with H and daughter coming and going. But I do believe that once we move to the physical aspect, it will become harder.

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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 12:13pm

Thank you for your response. At least I know that I'm not psycho in not being able to stop myself. We talked yesterday and said something about "staying away from each other" because it was getting dangerous. Um..that didn't even last 24 hours. I emailed him this morning and he emailed me back. He's supposed to call me later. I plan on telling him that I want to explore these "vibes" we've been sending out. I'm nervous because I've NEVER been this aggressive before. I have to be honest. I don't know what his relationship is like with his wife, not that I really care. But I guess that if it's good, I'm scared there will be a possiblity he turns me down. It would be difficult, but I'm sure we'd remain friends either way.


I don't really have reason to see this man outside of my home. Although we live a subdivision apart..it'd be easy to see him. My H doesn't distrust me with him...he just distrusts me in general..hmmm..can't imagine why. LOL. Which actually makes me angry because as to this point, I've NEVER done anything wrong in our marriage. Most of it has to do with me recently losing a ton of weight...like 50lbs...and him staying the same, slobbering, fat drunk as usual. (did i mention we have issues ;) H did make the comment the other night when the client was over watching sports "Did you notice the way he was looking at you?"...I just shrugged it of with a "no..you're silly"

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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 12:30pm
I too have lost over 65 pounds since the beginning of the year and finally have my self confidence back that I had as a teenager. MM and I had only talked on the phone when I was heavier, but made it very clear he didn't care if I weighed 300 pounds (not quite sure about that though) lol..... At our first "business" meeting I had gone from a tight 20 to a 10-12 and now I'm in a 4-6. Our big difference is that we're a couple hours away and he's very busy and we've found that us finding time together is close to impossible. He makes me feel like I've never felt before and right now it's strictly emotional. You can email me if you want nellerg@hotmail.com

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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 12:39pm
Hi Girls, Good luck with your soon to be EMA's. My advice is to keep the looks and stares down as much as possible. I know it's tough but unless you want to raise those red flags it's something you and MM really have to work at. My MM and I are together with friends and spouses all the time. Lots of gatherings, especially during the holidays. We are very very carefull:) OH and Congrats on the weight lost! How did you do it? I still have ten pounds that just does'nt seem to want to leave my butt! NMR
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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 12:49pm
Depression LOL! No really..weight watchers.
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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 1:20pm
Weight watchers for me too and working out. Just really decided had to have a life change and set my mind to it. Will NEVER go back to my "fat" clothes.
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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 1:51pm
I think I’m going to have to look into the weight watchers thing. I just can't get rid of this little extra poundage:( Thanks! NMR
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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 1:57pm

NMR,


don't be discouraged if it takes a while on WW...the less you have to lose, the longer it takes and harder it is. For people who are 30, 40, 50 pounds overweight, it comes off quickly at first, but those last 10 to goal weight are hard to lose. I also started working out with weights and cardio machines. I'm actually still about 5 lbs from goal.

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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 3:20pm
I lost all my weight on WW and, without divulging too many details, am VERY familiar with the program. It really does work. I lost more than 70 pounds and have maintained for two years now. That's part of what got me into trouble... I've been overweight most of my life and pretty much ignored by men and suddenly I was getting all this attention that I didn't know how to handle. Anyway, I strongly encourage it. They'll be having a joining special after the 1st of the year for $19 and they're also unveiling a lot of new things... You can join WW online if you want, but for me the meetings really made all the difference. There's not like having someone there to coach you along...
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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 3:49pm
Thanks, I think I will look into WW after the first of the year even though by then I'll probably have 20 pounds I'll need to get rid of:) I promised myself I would be careful because we're going to Cancun in January. LOL! NMR

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