affair with cop

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Registered: 05-08-2003
affair with cop
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Mon, 01-05-2004 - 6:21am
I am having an affair with a cop. We have known each other a little over a year and both of us are married. He said he was attracted to me from day one, I never could tell, just always thought he was friendly and also happily married. I have never done this sort of thing before, I am 46, he is 35. I think I am going thru mid-life crisis. I do feel guilty, but am having so much fun, I don't want it to end. It has been going on for 4 months now. I think about him all the time. We both agreed from the start that we would keep it physical, and not get emotional. Another cop friend knows about it and he thinks that we have fallen for each other. Do you think men talk to their friends about having an affair? I have a friend that I confide in and it helps a lot. I think when 2 people are having an affair, they need someone to talk to about it. What do ya'll think?
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Registered: 06-06-2003
Mon, 01-05-2004 - 7:58am
no such thing as keeping it physical, I can attest to that one.....and YES men talk, sometimes much more than women!
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Registered: 12-23-2003
Mon, 01-05-2004 - 11:53am
oh yes men talk...maybe not in detail like women but they will talk! just be careful who you talk to and be 100% sure you can trust that person. often when a spouse finds out about an A its from a third party who had been told about it.

that being said...time for some naughty thinking about those men in uniform....hmmmmmmm

laura
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Registered: 10-23-2003
Mon, 01-05-2004 - 2:56pm
I know I have told way too many people about my extracurricular activities - shame on me...that may burn my ass one day to...but they'd have to prove it!

OM...he says he hasnt told a sole which I think is insane. I do believe him only because he knows how I feel about the issue - I think everyone needs someone to talk to about this stuff - thank Goodness for this board - perhaps this will give us an out so we can refrain from telling others we may not be able to trust.

Maybe Im a fool but I dont think OM has confided in anyone - but then again Ive told enough people for the both of us - UGH!

cl-liberalgirl

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Registered: 01-04-2004
Tue, 01-06-2004 - 6:28pm
Yessss, they talk to each other. Men, cops, etc. I know alot of police officers. My OM is one too. I wonder sometimes if I'm the topic of conversation when they are out for drinks. He swears he hasn't told anyone but I can tell that some of the guys know or at least suspect something's up. Many of the guys I know are pretty shameless when It comes to their exploits. Have you ever heard the expression, "beat wife?"

I made the mistake of telling my best friend about my A. Now I regret it. She never has been able to keep her mouth shut. She also swears she hasn't told anyone but I don't believe her. This board seems like a good outlet. I'm new to it too. I really don't believe that a woman can just have a physical relationship. The emotions seem to creep in one at a time until before you know it you're spilling your guts to complete strangers anonymously over the internet.