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Affair Discovered
| Sun, 11-16-2003 - 12:03am |
I had an affair with a male co-worker for over 5 years. His wife found out a few days ago. He says she doesn't want to end the marriage. We mutually agreed to discontinue all communication although he did tell me she may be calling me. She hasn't yet. I wrote her a letter but haven't mailed it yet. Should I leave her total control and wait for her to call me or do you think I should mail the letter. Any advice is appreciated.

It takes a great inner strength to end a long term A. I hope you are OK?
Complicated
why in the hell should you have to deal with any of that?! it's his M, let him clean up that mess. you should stay as far away from his W as possible. nothing, and i do mean, nothing good will come of it. what can you possibly say to her that won't make you look bad, or a home-wrecker, or whatever!
please don't take her calls, and for god's sake, destroy that letter!!
stay out of that fallout girl. you will be much better off in the long run.
gurl
here's a first hand account of what can happen if YOU contact the wife:
I told my XMM's wife of our affair (after my H found out) and answered some of her questions. My XMM, denied everything and convinced his wife our affair lasted only 6 months when in fact it was almost 2 years. Its a messy situation where I've discovered that sometimes the truth hurts....remember no matter what, your MM will look out for himself and will say whatever is needed to save his marriage. Would I change telling his wife: no because it was something I needed to do to prove to my husband that I did not care about the XMM and that I was not protecting him by keeping his wife out of the loop. Do I regret losing the XMM? Yes......
Good luck to you, whatever you decide