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|Fri, 03-28-2014 - 11:53am|
So about 8 months ago, I met this wonderful man. We happened to be placed together in the work place. I won't go into details of what line of work I do, but we work one on one every day. When I met him, I immediately had an attraction after talking to him for over 5 hours straight. I quickly was aware that he was married and had a daughter, and thought nothing more of it. Eventually, working one on one every day, we became inseparable. The thought of losing just a few moments with him every day was torture, and he became my best friend/lover. His wife is pregnant, and has been the entire time, and is now very close to being due... and, they are having twins! This make him go from one to three in about 10 days from now. We have even discussed having our own because he wants to be with me, and he thinks that would probably be the only way he could ever leave his family (or if he ever got caught in the affair). He worries most about leaving his daughter, who he adores. He says he has not been "in love" with his wife for a few years, and that he holds resentment for her wanting more children (in vetro) since he only wanted one. Long before we met, he was unhappy and had contemplated a way out, Both of us never intended for this to happen, it just did. we were not "looking" for an extramarital affair, and I never once dreamed I would be in this situation. There are days that I am so stressed by it, that I just want it to end. there are also days where I am head over heels in love. I also have a significant other, but have never been married and have no children of my own. he is the ost amazing man I have ever met. He treats me like I have always dreamed (and I have had 4 long term relationships) to be treated. He is funny, handsome, polite, generous, laid back, sarcastic. We enjoy eachother's company so much that it hurts when we have to say goodbye every weekend. I am torn however about the arrival of the new babies. I think it makes him less desirable and even further out of reach. any thoughts? and btw, I am not asking people to criticize me for having an affair , I am asking for people who have had affairs to weigh in... I am not looking to be told "it is wrong" because I think everything happens for a reason, and it was fate that we met, because i was not even going to accept the job last year, and did on a whim.