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affair with a married man
| Thu, 12-04-2008 - 5:19pm |
I need help....I am about to get into an affair with a man ive known for yrs, we have flirted with each other and talked. Recently we starting texting each other and this has went on for a couple of months, he has been to my house a couple of times. We havent went all the way yet but its going to happen soon. I am in a relationship and he is married. he says he has wanted me for yrs, he has only been married for less than a yr. Should i believe its more than just extra sex for him? I tink i could fall in love very easily with him. I need advice....please

"People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within."
- Ramona L. Anderson
Prior to starting my A, I came here to talk about the feelings I was having and I got the same advice that you've gotten. People told me to run, not walk, away from the MM I am now having an A with, and they told me that it would only be a painful thing for me to go through even though in the beginning, it would seem great. I, like I'm sure many before me have, did not listen and went ahead with the A anyway. I am M as well and I have A LOT to lose if my H ever finds out about my A. For me, the benefits of being in the A make it worth the risk. My AP gives me something to look forward to when everything about my marriage just makes me want to crawl into a hole and die, and honestly, it keeps me more sane and moderate in my interactions with my H. Right now, I don't regret engaging in my A but it's still early for me and AP so who knows what will happen.
My advice to you is this. Only you know if what you could get out of this potential A is worth the risk. For me, it was. AP always puts my feelings first and really *cares* how I feel and whether or not I'm happy. My H's inability to meet my emotional needs is a big reason why we are unhappy, and I get from AP what I cannot get from him. I have had serious thoughts about leaving my H prior to engaging in my A, and I also don't disillusion myself that AP will leave his W for me if I should become single. He probably