The Affair Support Board offers none...

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Registered: 04-01-2004
The Affair Support Board offers none...
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Wed, 05-05-2004 - 3:30am
I have really tried here --- I post I reply and I feel in a tasteful manner

A post having nothing to do with EMA's but the luck of someone who now gets

her MM in her life on a daily basis gets 14 responses - while mine gets one....

I am done here -



Why do you have to be considered a Non-threat or actually have a "real" story to get

any type of support or encouragement or even a response ???

- it seems pretty clear there is what you call a clique -

have you ever started a new job ???

moved to a new neighborhood ??

I am not asking for much not even a bump to the top - but responses help ---


K

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Registered: 03-19-2004
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 6:14am
Kikki,

I feel that you're being a little unfair. I've been following your posts and hoping for an update. I would have gladly posted a reply but I wasn't able to be on the boards much yesterday and just saw your post today. I think you're feeling very emotional right now and understandably want and need support. Just don't jump to conclusions about why people do/do not immediately respond to a post.

Having said that, I can only imagine what you're going through right now. I thought my A was over this weekend and I can tell you that I would have been completely devastated. I'm proud that you're being strong because I don't know how strong I'd be in the same situation. Hang in there! He has broken your trust as well as your heart and he now has to work to regain both.

Take care of yourself and please continue to post. We're all just a breath away from being in a situation similar to yours.

((((((Kikki))))))

Jess

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 6:48am
Kikki,

I am presuming you are talking about my post. Hell yes honey, people here like me and have known me for sometime. Plus my post must have been upbeat and positive that they all felt the need to respond. However, it does take a long time to those many responses over the course of three to four days. Unless its Rain/Omaha arguing with PG! *wink*

Juliet

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Registered: 03-30-2003
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 7:11am
K-

I am sorry you feel that way. I have also read your posts. I just don't always get a chance to respond..not just to you to anyone! I have been a member here for over a year and a half and many of the names have changed but the initial purpose for being here is all the same. I know this is a hardtime.Don't leave. This board can truly offer you supposrt! Many of us have felt like you. Hang in there and keep posting!!

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Registered: 01-02-2004
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 7:26am
((Kikki)) I responded to one of your threads yesterday, and I hope that you do not decide to leave. I know that over the course of an hour on the board I may read 10-15 threads but only have time to respond to 3 or 4. I am sure many people are like that. I have gotten a lot of support here and feel that people really do care. Please do not leave during a time when you really need the support!

:)

Circe

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Registered: 04-16-2004
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 7:36am
Kikki -

cl-noregretsyet (co-cl of MAS board)
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 3:18pm
Hi Kikki:

I have found the same thing too from time to time...I'm not sure why...

But, I always read your posts. You have a unique attitude that I think alot of people can learn from. Also, you seem very strong. I think maybe that can be a little intimidating to the other women who struggle more? But still, it's no excuse...

Re the post I think you're referring to, about not going to meet him, I read that carefully, and at the end of it, I just felt that I had nothing constructive to say. I don't know what I'd do in that situation, to be honest. What you're doing seems like the right thing. I just don't know...I think it's a time-will-tell situation. I felt like I HAD no advice that would be better than what you already figured out for yourself. But that's no excuse for not responding just to say, we're listening, we hope it turns out ok.

So, we're listening, Kikki! Give us a chance...

barefoot

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Registered: 03-30-2004
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 3:27pm
kikki -- i too felt that you were just venting and didn't need any advice or support, although now i realize you just wanted validation for your actions with your MM. and you did the exactly right thing, not letting him control you and the entire situation. you are one tough lady and i like that, alot!

stay around, please. we'll do better, i promise!!

life

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Registered: 03-05-2004
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 3:57pm
I know exactly how you feel. They don't respond alot to me either. I have a couple that care . It only takes one to understand and help keep your sanity. Everything I say seems very important to me. I had a poster tell me no one ever responded to my post because I was delusional. I had some wierd personality disorder or something! I was ready to quit this board then! I need support or I would not waste my time here. I truely know the importance of support when you have none. My heart has been shattering . I know that if one person takes time to really care it can keep you going. I am still very needy of advice and support. I know it seems like there are favorites and that some just blow you off. But then there is that one special someone who really thinks and answers with something you really need. Hang around and keep posting! We all need support! just because we are doing ok. one minute doesn't mean we won't be crying our eyes out and looking for help the next. I am sure you can find a friend here. Please don't leave. The freedom to discuss your feelings here is very important when there is absolutely no where to turn. hugs to ya!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2004
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 4:26pm
HI kiki ~

I am more of a lurker than a poster .....

But I am sorry you feel this way ....

I will be more than happy to CLICK with you or anyone else for that matter I will try to be a more active poster but I am herre if you wanna post ... gush , rant something dont think your alone cause your not!!!!!

MY GOOD TIME
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Registered: 03-05-2004
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 4:34pm
see you are not alone! people are reading! Ask anything!