After I Went NC He Contacted ME!
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After I Went NC He Contacted ME!
| Thu, 03-12-2009 - 11:38am |
It didn't last very long before he contacted me.
| Thu, 03-12-2009 - 11:38am |
It didn't last very long before he contacted me.
All I can tell you is that if you let him back in, be prepared for the same rollercoaster ride again.
If I were you, I'd really think about starting up with him again.
Him contacting you could mean several things...He was thinking about you,,,He missed you...He wanted to know how you were doing...Only he can tell you what contacting you meant...
When I haven't made contact with AP in a while and he makes contact with ME..I think he is worried about me geniunely...When we go several days without any contact of any kind it truly worries him...
As far as the dream...it was just a dream....Maybe your way of dealing with having an A with a MM?
You AP contacting you means he's fishing to see if you're going to break NC so you can start up the A again, and he can take advantage of you like he used to. Sorry - nothing surprising there, it happens to most women who go NC. The A situation won't change, it will go back just as it was if you start it up again - is more pain and frustration really what you want?
Dreams are usually unconscious desires. Yours, not his.
hugs,
trixie
C'mon gal...you've been around this block. You know exactly what it means. Does it mean he loves you more than anything in the world and is now ready to leave the family nest for you? Probably not. Most likely not. What it means is that he doesn't want to lose his little sumthin sumthin on the side. He wants to keep you reeled in just enough to keep the thing going. You know this. We know this. Been there, done that. The real question here is not what it means, but what are you going to do about it?
You're right when you say it's like a game. Actually, it's not like a game, it is a game. On both of your parts. You pull away and do the NC thing because you want the reaction you just got. Him to respond. The problem with this game is that this is all it is. It doesn't really mean anything. At least not what you want and hope it does. Honestly, just reading about it is exhausting. So much energy spent on the whole thing. It's your choice if you want to keep doing it. But if I were you, I'd seriously consider taking your ball and going home.
As for the dream....I think it is simply your desires playing themselves out in your subconscious. I'm sure you would like them to battle it out and he leaves. For you. Don't count on it.
Edited 3/12/2009 4:20 pm ET by sillyme12000
LOL - OK - first - Gal - good for you for taking all the input and handling it well.
Second - sadly you KNOW most of what the other posters have told you is true - and the game playing well............... ugh!!