after a year and a couple of month

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Registered: 10-03-2008
after a year and a couple of month
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Thu, 12-11-2008 - 12:14pm

I'm starting to discover and find that I want AP in my life more and more.

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 11-12-2008
Thu, 12-11-2008 - 2:23pm

" I guess I would feel better if he didn't want me anymore.... "

" I'm starting to discover and find that I want AP in my life more and more. "

Why would you feel better if he didnt want you anymore?? I am confused !!

well hun, i recall that you dont want to get married then why are you after him to come to a decision? decision in this case would be you being happy being with him in whatever status you are-- AP/ friend .if after a year ,he is still M,he probably will stay M if the feelings you say are so strong.if such strong feelings couldnt make him leave his M ,then waht would?

I guess you need to decide ,not him.Take a break these holidays ,stay away for a few weeks and then see where your feelings are at.you may begin to see that you dont want him anyway.keep the break as a complete NC, no son, nothing, nada.stay away from all contact for a couple of weeks ,you might feel different.

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Registered: 10-03-2008
Thu, 12-11-2008 - 2:41pm

no i'm not after him to make a decision.

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss