Agreed on no contact for two weeks....yikes!
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|Tue, 07-09-2013 - 12:40pm|
AP is on vacation in France with his wife. I'm basically ok with this as I know the trip was planned a year before he even met me and we have done a lot to reassure each other before this trip started that our connection is strong and we'll be fine. The first week of his trip he was alone in England visiting family, and I heard from him daily (emails every morning). Then I realized that the part of the trip was approaching when she would join him, and they'd head off for France. I sent him an email telling him I think we should have NC, or very little contact, for that period. I did that partially out of respect for the vacation (how could he possibly enjoy it while worrying about me over here?), and also because I want to remember what it is like to be without him as such a constant thing in my life. He was ok with it, said he respected me for the request, and looked forward to reconnecting.
I'm doing ok with it, although sometimes doubt creeps in when I imagine them sitting in some sidewalk cafe, etc. etc. But then I stop and pinch myself and remind myself that she is not me, and there's no way he's not thinking about me during this.
This whole AP going on vacation thing is tough. How do you guys handle it?